Thanks! Very helpful thoughts.

My husband went through a similar rough patch at work, and the thing I did that he appreciated the most was to ask him about his day. He was very aware that it was depressing to hear about his crappy job every day and tried not to vent all the time, so it meant a lot to him that I would ask. (It also meant that I could choose when we talked about it--I didn't get dumped on as soon as he walking in the door.)

Don't offer a lot of suggestions or solutions--just give him a safe space to vent. Don't just say vague positive things--remind him that you think he's smart and talented and things will improve.

Anonymous wrote:regular blow jobs, spend less money, and reminders that this too will pass.

Agree, that's pretty much it. Also, don't look so frumpy. He needs motivation.

regular blow jobs, spend less money, and reminders that this too will pass.

My husband is pretty down about his job right now. He is smart and good at what he does, but admittedly gets bogged down in details. At the moment, he's more bogged down than not, doesn't have a lot of interesting work on the horizon, and there have been some management changes that have made his work quality of life less enjoyable. He's not in danger of being fired, but he's unhappy. This is complicated a bit by the fact that he could probably change jobs, but he feels that the job he is in has more pros and fewer cons than any other job in his field. I'm looking for some advice on how to support him through this somewhat difficult time.