Anonymous wrote:OP here. DS is 14. We used to ask if his homework was done and if so he could have an hour of screentime. But he would lie. So we worked out that we wouldn't ask about homework (he wanted homework autonomy), but in return he agreed he would have no screentime on weekdays. He agreed to this deal. We are happy to discuss changing the deal but not without his dad being involved. He's overseas so can't call him tonight.

stick to your guns, OP.

Ignore

Good idea for a younger kid, but at this age the draconian measures are ineffective. Need to have a discussion with him.

We ban screen time on weeknights. Kid is 14.

When homework is done, we talk about it, and sometimes say "yes" if it isn't that late.

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't exactly a consequence of lying. More precisely, we all agreed there was a problem if he was tempted to skip his homework, and also tempted to go over the hour unless we were vigilant. It was just too stressful all around so this was the solution. I guess it's not working. As he said tonight, the world is all about screens and I should get used to it.

The kids got a point, OP. This does not seem like a tenable solution. Glad to eat you're open to changing it good luck!

Tell him if he slams another one of YOUR doors you will take the door to his room off the hinges for a week. It is your house and your property. If he can't respect you or your property he will suffer the natural consequences.

It works for my two year old when she throws her fits with her toys. I just put the toy in 'time out'.

It wasn't exactly a consequence of lying. More precisely, we all agreed there was a problem if he was tempted to skip his homework, and also tempted to go over the hour unless we were vigilant. It was just too stressful all around so this was the solution. I guess it's not working. As he said tonight, the world is all about screens and I should get used to it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound rigid. Why do you ban screen time? That's so weird.

Go do your homework dear. The parents get to make the rules. When you have children you get to make the rules that you believe are in their best interest.

--another parent who only allows screen time on the weekends

Cut the patronizing bullshit. I'm a parent of two, ages 10 and 8. Don't be such a twat.

You're needlessly rigid. What possible good reason do you have for restricting the screen time, other than you get to make the rules? Is that how you run your household? Reminding the children at every opportunity that you're in charge?

You must really suck at parenting. Jesus. Take a class or something.

I guess someone missed their meds today.

Your son is a teenager. This is nothing! Stand firm, and figure it out when his dad gets back.

How do you have no screen time when students do much of their homework on a computer?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. DS is 14. We used to ask if his homework was done and if so he could have an hour of screentime. But he would lie. So we worked out that we wouldn't ask about homework (he wanted homework autonomy), but in return he agreed he would have no screentime on weekdays. He agreed to this deal. We are happy to discuss changing the deal but not without his dad being involved. He's overseas so can't call him tonight.

Original pp here. Ok, this makes more sense. Loss of screen time as a consequence for lying. Makes sense.

Screen time is a privilege in our house and it doesn't get turned on until homework and chores are done and instruments are practiced. Most of the time the kids choose not to watch it. But I don't stalk them and needle them and remind them I MAKE THE RULES if they choose to spend their time in front of a screen after they meet their responsibilities.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound rigid. Why do you ban screen time? That's so weird.

Go do your homework dear. The parents get to make the rules. When you have children you get to make the rules that you believe are in their best interest.

--another parent who only allows screen time on the weekends

Cut the patronizing bullshit. I'm a parent of two, ages 10 and 8. Don't be such a twat.

You're needlessly rigid. What possible good reason do you have for restricting the screen time, other than you get to make the rules? Is that how you run your household? Reminding the children at every opportunity that you're in charge?

You must really suck at parenting. Jesus. Take a class or something.

OP here. DS is 14. We used to ask if his homework was done and if so he could have an hour of screentime. But he would lie. So we worked out that we wouldn't ask about homework (he wanted homework autonomy), but in return he agreed he would have no screentime on weekdays. He agreed to this deal. We are happy to discuss changing the deal but not without his dad being involved. He's overseas so can't call him tonight.

Anonymous wrote:You sound rigid. Why do you ban screen time? That's so weird.

Go do your homework dear. The parents get to make the rules. When you have children you get to make the rules that you believe are in their best interest.

--another parent who only allows screen time on the weekends

You sound rigid. Why do you ban screen time? That's so weird.

He knows the rule but suddenly decided tonight to argue the point. I told him we'd discuss a change when his dad gets home Thursday. He flipped out at having to wait til Thursday to discuss. Just venting.