OP, you need to give some more information. Is this about him being 30 minutes late for a pick-up or is this about him having a fire arm in home when kids visit?

Anonymous wrote:We have children, so the violations are to our custody agreements and not the protective order. He's on violation #4 and like I said he continues to think it's not a big deal.

Do you have an attorney? That should be stop #1.

They are worth the money, especially in situations like this.

Do you have a protective order against him? Are there police reports?

Was he physically abusive or emotionally abusive? - Are you fearful for your safety or the safety of your kids or is it more he is abusive through manipulation, lying etc?

Do what keeps your kids safe. Nothing less and nothing more.

We have children, so the violations are to our custody agreements and not the protective order. He's on violation #4 and like I said he continues to think it's not a big deal.

If you all aren't together, then why are you so involved in his life? Taking him back to court for violations? Are you a police officer or judge?

If there's a protective order in place, it's not your job to take him back to court. The police will deal with him when they're notified. You should notify them ASAP if he's ignoring a protective order.

How old are your children?

Does he have a probation officer? Report his violations directly to the appropriate authority-they should take it seriously. Do not deal directly with him in any way unless it's mandated (child custody issues). You do not need to take him to court (again, unless it's something like not paying child support).

I lost you between the you left him and the fast forward.

If you don't have kids with him, you should have zero contact.

Why are you dealing with him? Do you have kids with him? What sort of violations are you talking about? Why would you get involved?

Why would you reengage him?

Walk away. Stop following his life.

I don't deal with people lie that bc I am too old for that crap and have ADD and cant remember people's individual dama.

I'm at my wits end.

I left an abusive relationship. When he was arrested I discovered so many, awful lies. If I hadn't fully realized who he was before that point, it became crystal clear that he was a pathological liar.

Fast forward, he was convicted. He's now violating court orders in minor ways, but doesn't appreciate the seriousness or even say he won't do it again.

How do you deal with someone like this? Someone who has no respect for the law, people, etc? I'm thinking about taking him back to court for the violations, but it seems like it could only make things worse for me.