Anonymous wrote:I would tell my husband to go. I'm capable of being sick and taking care of the kids for a few hours.

Yes, and I wouldn't need my mother to come over. Who does that?

Is your mom a "necessity" or is she causing more stress? Which one is it?

OP, it sounds like you're just sick and grumpy and looking to vent. Fair enough. But I think you might be exaggerating a bit.

I also would tell my husband to go.

He would ask me if I needed him, but unless I was half dead (and you are not) I would have told him to go.

I would tell my husband to go. I'm capable of being sick and taking care of the kids for a few hours.

OP here. Don't know how long he will stay. 4yo is fine, high maintenance baby is sick. My mom being here was a necessity while he was at work for the day. Frustrated that I told him I would prefer he be here to help but he's still going.

I would have wanted him home unless it was important that he make an appearance for the sake of his job. Tell your mom to go home. Why do people put up with interfering non-helpful family members?

I swear we've had this same thread sometime in the past 6 months.

Totally depends on the age of the kids. 8, no problem. 2, huge problem.

Depends. Is going to this party kind of necessary for networking/shmoozing?

My Dh's work has what we refer to as "forced fun" where they go do something social (few hours in a bar, golf, etc) and it is pretty much mandatory. Unless they were literally calling in a priest for last rites, wife being "sick" would not get you out of "forced fun."

Anonymous wrote:If your DH went to a work party while you were home sick (unable to even get out of bed) with two kids, one of whom is also sick? My mom came today to 'help' but that actually causes more stress.

no it is work, as long as he is not out really late and comes home drunk

Yes, but my husband would not go to the work party so it would have been a non-issue here.

No. I just want to lay quietly and either sleep, read or watch tv. Kids are the same way. So as long as DH left some food and tissues and stuff for us, we'd be totally fine.

is he going to duck in for an hour or so to make an appearance and then head home, or is he going to stay out all night drinking?

No.

If your DH went to a work party while you were home sick (unable to even get out of bed) with two kids, one of whom is also sick? My mom came today to 'help' but that actually causes more stress.