The Judge Judy bit makes me think you're a troll. What mature adult wants to air their dirty laundry on TV for the amusement of others? No bueno.

Patch the drywall yourself. YouTube had lots of how to videos.

Move on and avoid any other guy who acts like that.

Anonymous wrote:I agree.

You are a stupid idiot.

You stayed with him. It's your own fault.

You gave him the free pass to ruin your stuff.

He did nothing wrong.

Women are stupid.

Really now? You can seriously say that with a straight face?

I would try. It might work in your favor. And good for you for getting out.

Don't listen to the rude people above, ok sure they have lived perfect lives and just enjoy looking down their noses.

I would move on, just stay away from him. If you threaten him with a lawsuit be prepared to keep having the threat of him wing around like the PPs said.

I know a part of you is angry/upset that he did this but the thing is you need to figure out why you let him stick around for so long. If you had a daughter and she was in your shoes - what advice would you give her?

Good luck and I'm glad you're out.

Does his name begin with a J, OP?

I dated this man - or one just like him - in my early 20s after a sudden death in the family. I absolutely look back on it now, from my placid 30s, as an abusive relationship. I'm sorry this happened to you, OP. He is probably a sociopath.

No, you should not take him to small claims court. I know it sucks. I lost tens of thousands of dollars due to my ex, but it just isn't worth trying to out-argue him, particularly in a public venue. Consider this an expensive lesson learned and focus on your friends and job for at least 6 months. Things will be fine by then and you'll be glad he's out of your life permanently and completely.

Anonymous wrote:I agree.

You are a stupid idiot.

You stayed with him. It's your own fault.

You gave him the free pass to ruin your stuff.

He did nothing wrong.

Women are stupid.

Mean.

I am not a lawyer, so I don't know if you would have a legit claim here or not.

But from a personal well-being perspective? Let it go. You already let the relationship linger longer than you should have, by your own admission. Don't drag your entanglement out even further. Consider it an expensive lesson, but just have this jerk gone from your life forever.

Is this for real? Your boss is an idiot.
Judge Judy !?!
Be glad this guy is gone and hope you never, ever see him again.

I'm going to skip the DCUM-required "you're an idiot for XXXXX," and just say that while you might be able to get a judgment against him, this would mean keeping him in your life in a very adversarial way for a lot longer. Not worth it.

Anonymous wrote:I agree.

You are a stupid idiot.

You stayed with him. It's your own fault.

You gave him the free pass to ruin your stuff.

He did nothing wrong.

Women are stupid.

My aren't you compassionate.

if It was me, I wouldn't want to revisit it or air it in court in front of all the people there. You could get a judgement and you probably will, but then you would need to collect it. a whole new hassle which would keep reminding you of all the ugliness. He sounds really unstable, you would be best off getting far away with no more contact and chalk this up to what not to chose in a man. Best of luck and please don't take him back.

I agree.

You are a stupid idiot.

You stayed with him. It's your own fault.

You gave him the free pass to ruin your stuff.

He did nothing wrong.

Women are stupid.

Anonymous wrote:Some of life's lessons are expensive, in dollars. You just spent a lot of money to learn one. Move on.

Yep. The fact that you stayed with him long enough to allow him to destroy so much of your property says just as much about you - I'm sorry.

Some of life's lessons are expensive, in dollars. You just spent a lot of money to learn one. Move on.

I finally broke up with my boyfriend.

While he has never physically laid a hand on me, our fights have gotten more and more ugly. The last few have gotten so bad that he has taken to destroying my personal property.

I did some online research and even though he hasn't beaten me, the fact that he destroys my prized possessions is a form of domestic abuse.

Some examples:
He has broken a mirror on my bedroom dresser when he punched it, he has punched a few spots on my walls and there are now holes that my landlord will most likely charge me for when I move from my condo. He also has cracked my windshield and threw nail polish on my car interior thus staining the seats.

Our last argument was last week when he threw my brand new cell phone out the car window while I was driving.
I ran to retrieve it and it was a loss. I even cut my finger on the broken glass screen. He then grabbed my SIM card and squeezed it in half so it was no good.

He has gone through my closets when angry and ripped my favorite skirts and dresses. He also has smashed my DVD's, CD's and broke a few pairs of sunglasses and make-up mirrors as well.

I told my boss about it today...I had to because she wondered why I didn't have a phone. I told her what my ex did, then I started telling her about all the other stuff he broke. She told me he has to be accountable and I should file a claim in small claims court for damages due. I could get a judgment on him.

I wish I could, but wouldn't it be my word against his? I mean, I don't have any physical evidence or tangible proof that HE actually broke my stuff even though he truly did.

He has a criminal record and mine is squeaky clean...I am not sure if this would play a factor or not.

My boss said in small claims court it just matters on who the judge believes.

She even told me I should contact Judge Judy as this is the type of case she sees regularly on her show.

Your thoughts?