When I read posts like OP's I can't help but wonder if he/she is just deflecting. It's so much easier to focus on how your spouse isn't meeting your needs than to examine your own shortcomings. The only person you can change in any relationship is yourself. I wonder what OP has done to engage in activities that are important to spouse. What has OP done to inquire what spouse wants to do? What has OP done to celebrate what spouse is good at and enjoys? Marriage is a give and take. One person does not meet every single need. But you can celebrate what your partner brings to the relationship.

Anonymous wrote:This actually says quite a bit more about you, sorry to say. If you cared about intellect, wouldn't you have looked for that in a partner?

Exactly. Unless this was an arranged marriage, I don't get it.

I'm in a similar boat. It's not that DH isn't smart, it's just that we share very little in common when it comes to cultural and intellectual pursuits. We disagree on just about every topic whether it is film, politics, literature, travel or music. Unfortunately, this doesn't even spark any debate or conversation about the merits of each person's tastes...just a casual nod that we don't like the same things or even pretend to understand why the other likes something. So we pretty much just talk about kids and work.

I wish sometimeshe and I had more in common.

Really, OP? Really?

Anonymous wrote:No offense OP, but dropping the "F" bomb as much as you do is not exactly intellectual conversation in my book.
In other words, you don't exactly sound too classy yourself.

Just sayin'..............................................................

Agreed. Was OP wearing sweat clothes while she wrote her post?

I can not have meaningful conversations with DW either. Before being married, she would feign interest, and listen to me. However, I was too dense to notice that I was pontificating, with no back and forth.

But, I do not drop f-bombs once per line. I have found f-bombs and intellectual conversation are counter-indicated.

No offense OP, but dropping the "F" bomb as much as you do is not exactly intellectual conversation in my book.
In other words, you don't exactly sound too classy yourself.

Just sayin'..............................................................

Anonymous wrote:Oh no!!! Not a metal waateland!!

Their the wurst!

Good luck raising the kids.

Same boat here. He actually told my father that basketball players are tall BECAUSE they play the sport. Lucky for him he's hot, funny, and fucks like a rock star.

Same boat.
At 23 it seemed like a good idea. He was (is) hot.
Today I want to rip my eyes out.
No joke, married to a guy who has never read a book. Ever. Or a newspaper (except the sports pages).
Good guy, but no go on anything intellectual or cultural.

Oh no!!! Not a metal waateland!!

This actually says quite a bit more about you, sorry to say. If you cared about intellect, wouldn't you have looked for that in a partner?

Yikes. Hope s/he's hot. Or a good fuck or good with the kids. Or makes you lol.... Maybe at their stupidity.

I love my spouse, but for fucks sake did not realize that when I married they could not carry an intellectual conversation to save their life. So fucking dense. Somehow said spouse is marginally successful when in comes to collecting an income, but lacks zero insight into the human condition.

I'm in a metal waateland. I made my bed now ill lay in it. Fuck me.