It's normal on sites like POF. Match.com wasn't like that for me....

Your problem is you're messaging-texting- calling, the process is too drawn out and only attracts lazy guys. I chat for a day or two than immediately request a casual coffee meeting. Use the chat to screen a little, make sure they aren't too sexual, rude etc.

I use online sites just to connect me with people I wouldn't have the chance to meet otherwise. I don't spend my time getting to know them online, I want to meet immediately and get a sense of who they are in person. I figure if you're to hesitant to meet me in person it's never going to work. I'm an outgoing gal and don't need someone who is insecure, shy etc.

You may meet a few weirdos but I see it as a positive, I learn exactly what I want and don't. I like meeting people in general so maybe my method isn't for anyone.

Anonymous wrote:OP, stop being lazy and get out and meet people in person. What is it about you or your appearance that you don't feel comfortable getting out?

Assholes like you?

OP, stop being lazy and get out and meet people in person. What is it about you or your appearance that you don't feel comfortable getting out?

My friend just had a similar incident but she at least got coffee out of it. Coffee date with a tour of the neighborhood that conveniently ended at his apartment for a "movie"

doesn't happen to me. maybe i'm screening better...

They're trying to get laid with as little effort as possible. Fuck that noise!

Try to make contact with people online. The ones seeking you out aren't the best of what's out there.

OP here.

Yah I don't give in...and when I say no I'm the one playing

This happens to me all the time. It's so frustrating. I've had guys get mad at me and yell when I insist on a coffee date first. They all refuse. They only want sex. I've been called one of those girls. Um what ? Ya I'm not a slut. Don't give in op they just want to use you.

Well, maybe it is just the internet, but something has definitely changed about dating with younger people.

I mean, DTF? Why would any girl indicate they're DTF? Doesn't that take away half the fun for the guy of finding out whether she's DTF?

Maybe I'm just getting old.

Also, to the OP, maybe they don't want to spend a lot of money?

Just say no

It is in the world of those addicted to screens and technology.

OP, why not make your new "normal" the word "no"?

This is an issue with meeting people online. They're just looking for a hookup. Ask for a meeting sooner and make it clear that sex isn't happening that first meeting.

Chat online, then text back and forth.
Then talk on the phone.

Then they want to come over to have sex with you?

It seems to be my new normal. No one wants to meet publicly for drinks or coffee date anymore.

I don't think I am giving off a vibe that I'm easy...