You sound like a girl trying to pass herself off as a guy.

I think mental health problems run in your wife's family. I hope she seeked out help during the 6 weeks. That's over the top.

There are so many women on this board who hate men, they will post anything to make it the man's fault. It's hilarious.

My suggestion. Be the bigger person and leave it be. You know her sister will be in her life forever, may as well deal with it. Tough to swallow but it sucks. I'm sure your wife is jealous of her sister for being able to spend like that. I know I would be. I'm sure that's part of where your issue with her comes from.

Vent away OP. People post on here about their awful family members who aren't even as bad as yours.

You are a man so you aren't entitled to vent or to be frustrated on this board but who cares...vent anyways. Just be prepared to have this spun around to how it is all your fault.

Anonymous wrote:You claim to dislike her because of her bad advice, but you devote most of your time describing her bad shopping habits. Let it go- her money is hers, she spends it the way she wants.

Agree

Anonymous wrote:Yeah did anyone else notice that "sent my wife into a deeper depression" is lower on his list of grievances than "buys brand names?"

Bags send him into deep depression

Yeah did anyone else notice that "sent my wife into a deeper depression" is lower on his list of grievances than "buys brand names?"

Anonymous wrote:Can I just tell you how annoying it is that you have to insert how wealthy you are when complaining about how wealthy she is!!!!!!!!! News flash you aren't as down to earth as you think!

+1

You're coming off as really petty and jealous. Why do your SIL's spending habits have any affect on you? Oh wait, they don't. Please stop whining about all the expensive gifts she's given your child. Some people have SIL's who don't acknowledge their children. Some have SIL's who are abusive to their children. Some don't even have SIL's, because they're DEAD. GET OVER YOURSELF.

Can I just tell you how annoying it is that you have to insert how wealthy you are when complaining about how wealthy she is!!!!!!!!! News flash you aren't as down to earth as you think!

You claim to dislike her because of her bad advice, but you devote most of your time describing her bad shopping habits. Let it go- her money is hers, she spends it the way she wants.

You can't hate the woman for having no sense of money or work ethic (according to you). And I hope you expressed gratitude for the gifts.

On the other hand, you can resent someone for giving what you think is bad advice that sends your wife deeper in PPD. This is serious and you could legitimately have talked to your SIL to tell her to stop. Actually, you should have.
Let me guess, SIL badmouthed you to your wife. Your wife became even more confused and depressed. Well, it's also your wife's job to parse information correctly, PPD or no (I had PPD with my first and directed a lot of anger at my husband, so I've been through this).

Your wife loves her sister. SIL is considerate enough to buy your child expensive gifts. I say you try your darndest to see her best qualities in time for tomorrow. Smile, say hello, talk to your buddy BIL. Go home, done.

The annoying part you can't do anything about, however, dishing out bad advice to your wife that will affect your home is grounds for a "come to Jesus meeting"

If you're just venting, then right on. Those things all sound annoying.

If you're actually worried you're going to explode at her, I don't think that's warranted. I think it would be pretty easy to make a list of "cons" this severe about just about anyone.

She spends money she has, gives poor advice, and has some things she's snobbish about. Sounds worth a vent but not a punch in the face.

Wine. Lots of it.

Ever since I met my sister-in-law I have never liked her. She's a very nice person but she's shallow and lives in a fantasy world. Worse part is she assumes everyone should join her in her fantasy world. I've done my best to not say anything too negative about her in front of my wife because my wife loves her. But, her sister has said/done a few things this past year that wanted me to punch her in the face. Here's just a sample of why I cannot stand her:

1. She never made it on her own. She moved to NYC and ended up $50,000 in debt in which her parents had to bail her out. Then she ended up marrying a very nice guy who's a surgeon (I really like him, great guy). He makes over $400,000 a year and they live out west where he works. Throughout her entire life she's been a shopaholic. All she cares about are $5000 bags and expensive stuff. She'd never buy anything that wasn't "designer". I hate it and I come from a very wealthy family. But, we are grounded so to speak.

2. Wife and I recently had a baby and she bought us a freaking $2000 diaper bag. Yes, that's $2000. Hell, that's half my mortgage. I could have gone to Target and gotten a $49 bag that does the exact same thing. She also buys my baby designer clothes for $50 a pop that will only fit her for about three weeks. It drives me up the wall. It's not that we can't afford the same, it's just you don't waste money like that.

3. After the birth of our baby my wife went into deep postpartum depression. I ended up taking six weeks of leave from work and staying home. I was basically a single father for the entire time. I slept with our baby, fed my wife, etc. I did everything because she was just completely out of it. Her sister gave her some really bad advice which made me very angry, enough to almost call her sister and bitch her out on the phone. It really bugs me when people try to give advice when they're not in the picture or have any idea of what's going on. But, due to her sister's stupid advice my wife went into worse depression.

4. My sister-in-law always says "life's short just do it" or "life's short just buy what you want". Must be nice living in fantasy world because even though I'm in the top 5% I don't waste money. Income is hard to earn. I don't have a money tree in my backyard. House, cars, food, expenses, college, etc are all expensive. It really ticks me off when my sister-in-law acts so irresponsible. To this day it boggles my mind how her husband married her because he's very much like me. In fact we talk about our wives behind their backs...trading information and figuring out how to "deal with them" (in a joking manner). He's a great man who was raised by hard working parents. Even though he makes $400,000 a year as a surgeon he doesn't buy expensive stuff and is never stuck up.

Tomorrow I'm seeing my sister-in-law for the first time in over a year, and I'm not looking forward to it at all. Firstly, because I never cared for her. But, secondly is because of her stupid comments to my wife during her postpartum time. It was a horrible time for me and my family. The last thing I want is to blow up in front of everyone tomorrow because I do hold a great deal of negativity towards her inside.

Ah, the holidays...hate them.