First of all, embrace it. Admit to everyone in the family that you could have the Jekyll and Hyde personality during PMS.

And then - you want them to do one big thing which will ensure that Mr. Hyde's visit is pleasant. I ask my family to make their beds. And when I see the made beds...even if I am getting annoyed over everything else...it is a visual reminder that the family is doing their best and I should try and do too.

Meditations, exercise, supplements...they all help. As well as adequate sleep.

My PMS improved in perimenopause/menopause (I'm 56).

I strongly recommend meditation. I wish I had taken it up earlier.

that's what I am scared off that my menopause will be horrible. I am 40 and already having all these issues!

This is one if the PPs. I wanted to add that you should try to find a solution soon. It's not likely to get better during peri menopause and menopause.

I get uncharacteristically mean and short-tempered when I have PMS. Make a note, either mental or some physical reminder that your mood swings are approaching. When you feel like you're about to lose your shit, walk away and hide for 5 minutes.

Look into supplements. Cut back on sugar and caffeine. Meditate, or pray, if that's your thing. Exercise. Exercise. Exercise.

If you feel particularly slighted or resentful about something, write it down and don't mention it for at least 72 hours. You'll have some clarity by then.

Maybe a therapist? I had pretty bad PMS mood swings and finally saw a therapist. Realized I had a lot going on deep down and once I got to the bottom ofthings, the mood swings improved drastically.

But another thing to change is the mentality of "if I'm so evil should I just hide". The truth is, your mood swings are affecting your husband and your kids. He's not calling you evil, he's not trying to be mean. He just wants to figure out a way to work on it.

I'm sorry I would look into changing your diet. Cutting out sugar and processed foods could really help.

My husband just told me that I am like Jekyll and Hyde with my PMS. It's not that I don't have insight into this. it took me 10 years to figure out that I have mood swings and diagnosed myself with PMS. I started taking celexa and I think it helped. but clearly it can't just fix everything. I can't do hormones because of my age and risks. Not sure what to do anymore. I lose my sexual drive during that time, I scream at the kids (this has improved), I get frustrated and agitated. And all of this has improved not just with the medicine but with my realization that I am not myself. But Jekyll and Hyde???? really? I just feel so hurt that I have been actively trying to be normal and it just feels like it's not noticed or appreciated.
If in fact I am so evil what is the advice for me. should i hide myself during that time, should I keep busy, should I walk away. I really need to figure this out before it starts affecting our marriage
I am not upset at him. he is right. and he is clearly trying to help and talk but I don't know what more to do to fix this!