Anonymous wrote:Maybe she values less superficial things than you do. I didn't marry my husband for his looks or his money--I married him because he's smart, funny, supportive, trustworthy, a good father, adventurous, mature, and thoughtful. Looks fade, but character endures. Also, what you think is nerdy, she might think is intelligent, passionate, sensitive, and interesting.

My DH is nerdy, intelligent, logical, quite, stoic, introvert. He often gets lost in his own world when he is thinking about some problem. I am quite social, emotional and an extrovert. And he turns me on like nobody on this earth. OMG - super hot!

Maybe she values less superficial things than you do. I didn't marry my husband for his looks or his money--I married him because he's smart, funny, supportive, trustworthy, a good father, adventurous, mature, and thoughtful. Looks fade, but character endures. Also, what you think is nerdy, she might think is intelligent, passionate, sensitive, and interesting.

Who cares? It is your friend's business as to why she married her husband. A true friend would be supportive and happy instead of passing judgment.

Ask Heidi Klum. Her first H and several of her BFs were poor (at least poorer than her) and super duper fugs. Think they were short too.

I was one a hot girl who married a big nerd.

I loved his giant brain, I loved the conversations we had, I loved how much thought he put into things, I loved that he was nice and reliable after being with some handsome-but-volatile dudes, I loved that he wasn't an alpha male douche hyped on testosterone who would just cheat on me, I loved that he worked like mad to please me in bed because he thought I was out of his league, I loved all the things we had in common and the fun we had together...

Still love all those things about him. I'm just a little less hot 15 years later!

He wasn't wealthy and he didn't have a football player's body, and I did not give a single fuck. Why would I?

He didn't have to like, hypnotize me into it. "Hold on her," Jesus.

Maybe he is a just a nice guy.

Trust me on this...It is slim pickings out there ladies. It really is.

If you can find a guy out there who is honest, intelligent, witty, of good character, loyal and humble, then consider yourself blessed.

Who cares about having the most handsome or richest man? That is all surface stuff. What truly holds a relationship together goes beyond the surface stuff.

Anonymous wrote:It's always been interesting to me how you see many more attractive women with plain men than the reverse.

I think it's because

(1) There are more beautiful women than beautiful men. Women are the fairer sex. I know a reasonable amount of very attractive women. I know a handful of very attractive men.

OR

(2) Women are able to do more with their appearance. A woman can get a very favorable cut, wear make-up, wear flattering clothes, heels, etc. that make them look more attractive then they would be otherwise. Men have a pretty narrow range.

I lean towards the former, though.

Really? All the hot men in the world have usually very ordinary looking wives. Attractive but ordinary.

Except Tom Brady and Gisele Bundchen - who are so freakishly good looking that I am sure they are aliens.

It's always been interesting to me how you see many more attractive women with plain men than the reverse.

Nerds are so hot!

Big magic stick and sweet talks her.

Maybe he's great in bed?

Because she's not a vapid bitch?

Some people care about other things. Brains, kindness, humor, trust, morals, world view, goals/interests in life, financial stability, intellectual stimulation, sense of fun, family values, religion, etc....

Nice judgment on your part though. You sound like a peach.

A friend of mine is really hot, has always been just married a real nerd of a guy. He seemed nice enough at the wedding, isn't extremely wealthy, and isn't in football player shape. I can't figure out his hold on her.