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Jesus I can't afford/can't get time off to visit my family out West I would love to be able to drive and see them for the holidays. Of course they are not boring though.
I do have some boring relatives - they live on a ranch and like to talk about local college basketball and football rivalries, it is excruciating for me.
My suggestion would be to help in the kitchen, get a round of card games going, or maybe bring something for the kids to do like a really cool Lego set and then spend your time "helping the kids." Cocktails might help.

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Anonymous wrote:So then don't go. I'd much rather have someone not come than be pissy and moody the whole time.

If I could be pissy and moody -- then I would probably go willingly. In my family you can't be pissy and moody...ever. Because then the pack will rip you apart for years to come.

Spend the day volunteering somewhere. It will help you get outside your own head, and your own perspective, which seems to be a place where you're the most interesting person in any room and wouldn't consider going to any effort to find something positive in your relatives. So spare them your presence and spend the day doing something useful to someone else, so you won't be back after Thanksgiving posting details of your horrid, yet somehow strangely mandatory, family Thanksgiving.

People who bitch about how much they dread Thanksgiving, then talk about how they simply MUST attend those hated events, are trying to be martyrs. What a waste of energy. Go do something positive with the day instead.

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I do not care for the food and I do not want to spend time with a bunch of relatives. I meet them frequently enough throughout the year and they are not interesting people to me. So to sit and listen to them, and eat all that calorie laden food, I am thinking what is the point?

I feel bad for you. I really do. Do you have friends who want to have a turkey dinner who have no where else to go?

Can you check into a five star hotel, order room service, drink wine and watch a movie?

Can you volunteer at a homeless shelter?

Can you stay home and call in sick to your boring relatives?

I am sure you do not realize you are sending out a bad vibe when you are FORCED to be with the dull. I am sure they wish you were more creative.



Think about it!

I know what you mean. I'm not looking forward to have the same repeated conversation with my SIL. Gahhhh!!!

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I do not care for the food and I do not want to spend time with a bunch of relatives. I meet them frequently enough throughout the year and they are not interesting people to me. So to sit and listen to them, and eat all that calorie laden food, I am thinking what is the point?

Are you my sibling? ?

Seriously though, unless they are crazy dysfunctional, I think you should go. Be unselfish this time of year. You may not want to see your relatives, but they might want to see you.

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Anonymous wrote:You sound like my ungrateful bitch of a DIL. We don't want her to come ever but my son insists on bringing her. After they leave we make fun of her.

You sound like the MIL from hell. They're married so OF COURSE she comes with your son...

Wow, she doesn't want to come to your house. I wonder why. Do you really expect your son to leave his wife home alone on thanksgiving?

The point is, when someone you love wants to spend time with you, and talks to you about things that don't interest you, you do it to show you appreciate someone caring about you.

If you were an interesting person yourself, you would talk with your relatives enough to find common ground with them to help you better enjoy your time with them.

Anonymous wrote:You sound like my ungrateful bitch of a DIL. We don't want her to come ever but my son insists on bringing her. After they leave we make fun of her.

You sound like the MIL from hell. They're married so OF COURSE she comes with your son...

You sound like my ungrateful bitch of a DIL. We don't want her to come ever but my son insists on bringing her. After they leave we make fun of her.

Anonymous wrote:So then don't go. I'd much rather have someone not come than be pissy and moody the whole time.

If I could be pissy and moody -- then I would probably go willingly. In my family you can't be pissy and moody...ever. Because then the pack will rip you apart for years to come.

Anonymous wrote:I am also not a fan of Thanksgiving. Every other year we go out of town and just have a family vacation of our own. I don't like to fly over holidays, so we go somewhere a 2-3 hour drive away - leave on Thanksgiving day and return on Saturday.

Good idea.

I am also not a fan of Thanksgiving. Every other year we go out of town and just have a family vacation of our own. I don't like to fly over holidays, so we go somewhere a 2-3 hour drive away - leave on Thanksgiving day and return on Saturday.

So then don't go. I'd much rather have someone not come than be pissy and moody the whole time.

I do not care for the food and I do not want to spend time with a bunch of relatives. I meet them frequently enough throughout the year and they are not interesting people to me. So to sit and listen to them, and eat all that calorie laden food, I am thinking what is the point?