Anonymous wrote:This is our love story, and it has been a true, compatible, physical match-made-in-heaven with undeniably nice benefits on the side. Nothing wrong with that, and we both give out as good as we get. Can you say Hermes, Aspen, and after-parties at the French Embassy?

Can you say whore? Because that's pretty much what you are calling yourself. You pursued a wealthy married man, so you clearly care nothing for honor or integrity. So I guess selling your body for "Hermes, Aspen, and after-parties" shouldn't surprise the people who know you.

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Personally, I wouldn't judge an age difference in a marriage any more than I'd judge a race or religion different.

I would. The age difference is very often a result of the young, pretty girl wanting to take advantage of the older man's resources or social status. That's a far cry from couples of different races or religions falling in love.

And the man?

This is our love story, and it has been a true, compatible, physical match-made-in-heaven with undeniably nice benefits on the side. Nothing wrong with that, and we both give out as good as we get. Can you say Hermes, Aspen, and after-parties at the French Embassy?

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Personally, I wouldn't judge an age difference in a marriage any more than I'd judge a race or religion different.

I would. The age difference is very often a result of the young, pretty girl wanting to take advantage of the older man's resources or social status. That's a far cry from couples of different races or religions falling in love.

PP, how old are you and DH currently? What age did you get together?

I'm the May in a large age difference relationship. DH certainly wasn't rich or married when we met and married. Yet, we found ourselves judged and critiqued by a number of people, including some very nasty comments directly to my face from women closer to his age.

People will always find reasons to talk or be nasty about anyone if they want to.

Personally, I wouldn't judge an age difference in a marriage any more than I'd judge a race or religion different. I would judge a couple for an affair, though. Just being honest.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you ask? Are you pursuing a wealthy married man?

Perhaps I am. I just want to know if this is an acceptable consequence of living and working in Washington, or whether I will be socially looked down upon.

Why do you ask? Are you pursuing a wealthy married man?

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Anonymous wrote:A man or woman can pursue someone else's wealthy spouse all they want, it doesn't cause divorce. The only people that can cause a divorce are the two that are married.

I do not quite believe this. I have seen some good marriages terribly undermined, if not shattered because of the often-irresistible temptation of new, exciting sex.

You saw these divorces where? Television?

Actually all the time here in DC. Look around your wealthy neighborhoods, your privates schools, your high-end gym, your expense account restaurants, Capitol Hill, the well-known lobbying outfits and law firms. These trophy wives of May-September marriages to powerful, wealthy, well-connected individuals are literally everywhere.

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Anonymous wrote:A man or woman can pursue someone else's wealthy spouse all they want, it doesn't cause divorce. The only people that can cause a divorce are the two that are married.

I do not quite believe this. I have seen some good marriages terribly undermined, if not shattered because of the often-irresistible temptation of new, exciting sex.

You saw these divorces where? Television?

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Anonymous wrote:A man or woman can pursue someone else's wealthy spouse all they want, it doesn't cause divorce. The only people that can cause a divorce are the two that are married.

I do not quite believe this. I have seen some good marriages terribly undermined, if not shattered because of the often-irresistible temptation of new, exciting sex.

Precisely. So, in the end, one spouse decided to cheat or divorce. As the first PP said "... The only people that can cause a divorce are the two that are married.".

Anonymous wrote:A man or woman can pursue someone else's wealthy spouse all they want, it doesn't cause divorce. The only people that can cause a divorce are the two that are married.

I do not quite believe this. I have seen some good marriages terribly undermined, if not shattered because of the often-irresistible temptation of new, exciting sex.

A man or woman can pursue someone else's wealthy spouse all they want, it doesn't cause divorce. The only people that can cause a divorce are the two that are married.

Gold digging is a career. 99% women after married men. The 1% of men are like John Kerry.

How often do you think that divorce in this area is precipitated by a woman pursuing a wealthy (though married) man? Or, a man pursuing a wealthy (though married) woman?