Anonymous wrote:
Then it would be a definite no. But if she's lonely, maybe try to do dinner or something with her at least once a week. Or have her over for dinner and some time with your kid.

Are we always responsible for our relatives that are lonely? If I'm lonely, can I expect my family members come and entertain me weekly?

Growing up, my brother and I slept at our grandparent's apartment every Saturday night. Every. Saturday. Night. For years and years.
We loved it and I remember thinking that my parents must be lonely without us! It was the 70's and they were out, living it up at my uncle's restaurant.
Some of my absolute best childhood memories...staying up late to watch the Carol Burnett Show, playing checkers with my grandpa (he never let me win, so when I did it was an accomplishment), eating whatever I wanted (as long as I ate my lamb chops, baked potato and green beans for dinner), visiting the elderly spinster sisters who lived in the apartment next door, marathon monopoly games with my brother. Great days, I loved it.

Anonymous wrote:I hope both my DILs die so I can see my grandchildren.

You might be in for a long wait.

I hope both my DILs die so I can see my grandchildren.

I had a great time spending nights at relatives houses as a child. Yes, it did break my schedule and diet, but some things are more important than that - such as developing close relationships with people besides my parents. I truly believe this enriched my life.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well assuming your MIL is like my mom and very active and involved in my kid's life and my kid absolutely adores her AND your kid is ok sleeping at her house (mine is)

Nope, my kid said "no", doesn't adore her, she's not active and barely involved.

Then it would be a definite no. But if she's lonely, maybe try to do dinner or something with her at least once a week. Or have her over for dinner and some time with your kid.

Anonymous wrote:Well assuming your MIL is like my mom and very active and involved in my kid's life and my kid absolutely adores her AND your kid is ok sleeping at her house (mine is)

Nope, my kid said "no", doesn't adore her, she's not active and barely involved.

Anonymous wrote:That's the child's grandmother. Would you hesitate if it were your mother ?

I wouldn't do it with my mother either. There's no reason for a child to break his schedule and shlop around people's houses every week.

Well assuming your MIL is like my mom and very active and involved in my kid's life and my kid absolutely adores her AND your kid is ok sleeping at her house (mine is) I would agree to every other Friday or Saturday night.

And then I would do a little dance around the house.

My mom takes DS once a month, although sometimes twice.

I once left my preschooler with a MIL for a week-end and it was a complete fiasco.

Too often. But I'd probably feel sorry for her and try to include her in things more often.

That's the child's grandmother. Would you hesitate if it were your mother ?

I don't think it's nuts. I wouldn't have done it myself, but I know plenty of parents whose kids would have loved it and who would have enjoyed the opportunity for a date night or to sleep in.

I think you can either say "Yes" or "could we do every other night" or "let's try once and see how it goes" or "how generous, but I think he's not quite ready", but you don't need to think it's "nuts".

if your mother-in-law wanted your preschooler to spend a night at her house once a week?

P.S. Because she's lonely.
P.S.S. I think it's nuts.