Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 18:39     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
Anonymous wrote:Why don't you ask your husband this question?

I'm genuinely not being snarky. Your husband doesn't want a "thoughtful" gift, he wants some particular things, and only he knows what they are. Other DCUM posters certainly do not know this.

I make my family a list of things I want each year. My male relatives buy these things for me. My female relatives ignore the list and try to think of something that I either should want or haven't yet realized I want. (This is obviously an overgeneralization, but not by a ton). I like the gifts from my male relatives better.


Listen, I try not to be snarky on this board but... WTF. If you don't have any ideas for presents and don't want to share what you gave your partner for an early Christmas together, don't, but this is an utterly useless post. How do you know what my partner wants for Christmas? Did YOU ask him? Because he most certainly does not want "some particular things," at least according to what he told me.

Thanks for the lecture about your own gift-giving/receiving issues, though?
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 16:20     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
Why don't you ask your husband this question?

I'm genuinely not being snarky. Your husband doesn't want a "thoughtful" gift, he wants some particular things, and only he knows what they are. Other DCUM posters certainly do not know this.

I make my family a list of things I want each year. My male relatives buy these things for me. My female relatives ignore the list and try to think of something that I either should want or haven't yet realized I want. (This is obviously an overgeneralization, but not by a ton). I like the gifts from my male relatives better.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 16:06     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
I gave him a bottle of Scotch (not a $250 bottle like a PP, but probably about $100, certainly more than he would spend for himself) and a cool pair of cufflinks. He really likes to get stuff that he can use that's a little nicer than he would buy for himself. The first Christmas was pretty much like our other Christmases.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 15:59     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
12 bottles of beer
11 seasons of MASH on DVD
10 pairs of cufflinks
9 fresh-made muffins
8 bottles of hot sauce
7 magazine subscriptions
6 months of the gym
5 Golden Sacagawea coins.
4 pairs of pants
3 French-cuff shirts
2 Spiffy ties
and
1 very sloppy blow job.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 14:33     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
Anonymous wrote:Get a special ornament. Other stuff, too, but I forgot to get us first Christmas ornament and I regret it. I doubt DH cares, though...

One thing that meant alot to us was that we woke up together on Christmas for the first time, and spent Christmas morning in our own home before going to see our families of origin. It was nice because we had some private time and it fit like a first step to starting our own family traditions.

I actually don't remember what we did for gifts. I think we were trying to tone down our spending compared to previous years by then because we were trying for a baby and saving for a down payment.


So apparently I answered my own version of your inquiry instead of the question you actually asked. Haha. Sorry.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 14:32     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
Get a special ornament. Other stuff, too, but I forgot to get us first Christmas ornament and I regret it. I doubt DH cares, though...

One thing that meant alot to us was that we woke up together on Christmas for the first time, and spent Christmas morning in our own home before going to see our families of origin. It was nice because we had some private time and it fit like a first step to starting our own family traditions.

I actually don't remember what we did for gifts. I think we were trying to tone down our spending compared to previous years by then because we were trying for a baby and saving for a down payment.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 13:38     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
On our Christmas when we were engaged we gave each other wedding bands (not to wear until wedding though). A couple of my other friends did that as well.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 13:34     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
iPod mini...and he's never been satisfied with a gift since then. Set the bar too high
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 13:12     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
PP here: Oh, that was our first Christmas together.

Our first married Christmas was also a gift-giving debacle and I have since learned that my entire H's family just truly sucks at giving gifts.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 13:12     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
My point is, do what you want to do for Christmas, but no need (in my mind) to build up the fact that this is a first.

So start your own holiday traditions--get a tree, buy a special ornament, sip eggnog. Make it about the experiences. (And if you're looking for a special something to buy, you'll probably know more about what you'd like than a bunch of strangers on the internet.)
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 13:11     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
I'd gotten him a nice watch and a couple books he'd mentioned.

He handed me a basket with peach smelling lotions and soaps that looked like it came from the drugstore.

I was embarassed that I'd misinterpreted his intention when we'd talked about Christmas gifts, so I quickly hid the package with the watch and just gave him the books. The watch is still in a drawer at my parents' house.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 13:11     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
We took an awesome vacation together. DH got me an emerald ring that I had seen months before and commented on and I got him a $250 bottle of whiskey he would never buy himself along with some engraved high ball glasses, and made a couple of homemade cutesy things. And then we got each other boring things like clothes and household things.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 13:04     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
Anonymous wrote:I can't even remember. First Christmas married is not really a big thing for me, since Christmas has nothing to do about marital status.

First mothers' day or first fathers' day for new parents? Ok. First Valentine's day for new couple? Ok. But there's no need to overthink the first Christmas.


Hmmm, Christmas is a much bigger holiday for us than Valentine's Day is, and we'd like to do something special for one another. VDay is just dinner and flowers tbh, we're not really that into it
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 13:03     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
I can't even remember. First Christmas married is not really a big thing for me, since Christmas has nothing to do about marital status.

First mothers' day or first fathers' day for new parents? Ok. First Valentine's day for new couple? Ok. But there's no need to overthink the first Christmas.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2013 12:40     Subject: First Christmas together - what did you give your DH??
Title says it all. This is our first Christmas together (we aren't married yet, but we will be!) and I have some ideas for gifts but would love to know if anyone else gave (or men, if you received!) anything special, memorable, or romantic that first major holiday together.