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Anonymous wrote:Yep. Never going to act on it but I am totally attracted to a friend's husband and I thinm it is mutual. Depressing huh?

Just remember whenever you meet him that he is probably chock full of issues and doesn't pull his weight in the house.

At least that's what I do

I do the same thing when my mind reverts fondly to an ex bf -- and then I promptly remind myself that somewhere his wife is probably picking up his dirty clothes all over the place just like I am picking up my husband's at home.

Anonymous wrote:So let's have an honest conversation - how many people here are attracted to a friend's partner?

I can't say that I am.

Anonymous wrote:Yep. Never going to act on it but I am totally attracted to a friend's husband and I thinm it is mutual. Depressing huh?

It's a little bit disconcerting that you are 1. married and 2. find this "depressing." How would your spouse feel if you told him this?

So let's have an honest conversation - how many people here are attracted to a friend's partner?

Anonymous wrote:Yep. Never going to act on it but I am totally attracted to a friend's husband and I thinm it is mutual. Depressing huh?

Just remember whenever you meet him that he is probably chock full of issues and doesn't pull his weight in the house.

At least that's what I do

Anonymous wrote:How can OP completely avoid him if they're all close friends?

When you see him in a group setting, exchange pleasantries then promtly chat up some one else. When arranging get togethers, liaise with his wife, and don't do one on one meetups with him.

Can you control yourself? Do.

If this is just flaring up now, could there be some stress in your relationship? If you've known this couple for a while, why all of a sudden would this attraction become so strong, except if your own relationship is lagging?

I'm not trying to be accusatory, I'm just thinking that maybe your marriage needs some revving up.

Anonymous wrote:Yep I am married and am not a ho. I can't help being attracted to him. I would never ever act on anything and neither would he (if he even WAS attracted to me). Again - depressing.

Depressing? Like death of a loved one? Cancer diagnosis? Seriously, if this is what depresses you, you need some charity work to do.

Being attracted to other people is just life.

me too. never ever would act on it and am slightly distant but polite around him, but man I wish id met him first!

Yep I am married and am not a ho. I can't help being attracted to him. I would never ever act on anything and neither would he (if he even WAS attracted to me). Again - depressing.

Are you married?

How can OP completely avoid him if they're all close friends?

Avoid him and don't put yourself in tempting opportunities with him.

Yep. Never going to act on it but I am totally attracted to a friend's husband and I thinm it is mutual. Depressing huh?