My DH and I do this. I have insomnia and he is a very active sleeper. We still have sex, snuggle, read together, whatever. And then we just sleep in separate rooms. It works very well for us.

I think it's a great idea if it's what both people want. Honestly, if I had a great husband who snored like a bear hibernating or thrashed in his sleep, I wouldn't want to deal with that every night either. I'd start off in bed with him every night for sex and snuggling, and then move to another bed for real sleep.

Why put up with adverse sleeping conditions if you don't have to?

Anonymous wrote:Strange to have separate bedrooms? I have become friends with a new mom at our school. They are very wealthy but she is really lovely. She invited me over and gave me a tour of her amazing home. I was shocked but didnt' show it when she showed me her husbands room and at the end of the hall, her bedroom! They were beautifully appointed and were like little suites. She told me its a situation that works for them and her own parents did this. They do in fairness seem to have a very happy great marriage. Maybe they are onto something......when I started thinking about it I thought I would LOVE to have my own room to myself at night, wathch what I want, read when and where I want, pile on the blankets, turn the air way down...you get it. Hum? Not so strange afterall what do you think?

Strange statement.

Rich people's houses has mr and ms suites including seperate bathrooms

I have my own bedroom.

I love sleeping with my DH every night!

We have separate bathrooms though. When we were first married we couldn't stand sharing bathrooms.

My grandparents rocked this. He woke up at dawn and she smokes. The master suite ("his" upstairs) even had two twin beds, on top of that.

I thought it was sad, but damn I wish we had an extra bedroom. We get in cover fights every night.

My DH and I have our own bedrooms. His home office is also in his bedroom. I like having all my stuff, and my clothes in my own room. I sleep with him in his bed 90% of the time, but somtimes I like to have a night to myself. Sometimes, he needs to stay up and work in his room, so I have mine to go to to read, do girly stuff, etc. I love our arrangement.

Also, it was nice that I had my own room to stay with our DS when he was still an infant and still BFg. That way, I could take care of him all night long while I was out on maternity leave, and my DH was able to get a good night's sleep in his room, since he had to get up early for work.

Anonymous wrote:Call me crazy, but I would really miss my DH at night if we didn't have the same room. In fact, even if one of us is coughing all night, we still prefer being in the same room (even though our guest room is sitting there empty). In theory having your own room would be great, and i can't knock someone for doing it, it would just be too lonely for me!

I agree with you. But I don't hold it against someone if they can't put up with their spouse's loud snoring every night, or their spouses kicking. And I'm sure if DH did any of those things, it could eventually get to a point where I wasn't sleeping and one of us would have to sleep in our guest bedroom. Would I miss him? Yes. But lack of sleep can also cause issues in the marriage.

Of both parents are completely on board with sleeping in separate rooms then I think it can work. It is when mom sleeps with the kid/s and dad sleeps in a different room, or mom/ dad get kicked out, or one wants to sleep together and the other wants to sleep apart that you have problems.

So if both prefer to sleep alone - go for it!

My parents do this. My dad snores and medication he is on makes him jumpy and can cause night terrors. My mom is a light sleeper. That combination doesn't work well! I think if one partner's sleeping habits are causing the other partner to lose out on sleep, sleeping in separate bedrooms is probably beneficial to their marriage!

Call me crazy, but I would really miss my DH at night if we didn't have the same room. In fact, even if one of us is coughing all night, we still prefer being in the same room (even though our guest room is sitting there empty). In theory having your own room would be great, and i can't knock someone for doing it, it would just be too lonely for me!

I wouldn't want to sleep without DH at night. I fall asleep with his arm around me most nights. I would definitely miss him.

I kick and my dh snores. We cannot share a bed to save our lives. High quality sleep is really important to quality of life.

Strange to have separate bedrooms? I have become friends with a new mom at our school. They are very wealthy but she is really lovely. She invited me over and gave me a tour of her amazing home. I was shocked but didnt' show it when she showed me her husbands room and at the end of the hall, her bedroom! They were beautifully appointed and were like little suites. She told me its a situation that works for them and her own parents did this. They do in fairness seem to have a very happy great marriage. Maybe they are onto something......when I started thinking about it I thought I would LOVE to have my own room to myself at night, wathch what I want, read when and where I want, pile on the blankets, turn the air way down...you get it. Hum? Not so strange afterall what do you think?