Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a tough situation, OP, but in the end you need to look out for yourself. And yes, blood is thicker than water, blah blah blah, but this is a cousin you haven't seen in 3 years.
Tell her you can't take time off work, send a great gift, and don't let anybody make you feel guilty.
lAnonymous wrote:I don't mean this to sound as terrible as it is going to sound BUT, perhaps she is having most of your other female family members be part of her wedding and felt obligated to asking you? Either way, I'd politely decline and say that unfortunately you just started a new job and have very limited vacation days and most of them are already being used with previous commitments. Then said a great gift.