Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you need to stop sharing so much with your parents re: $ and house purchasing. And when your Mom does comment, say thanks for your perspective and redirect the conversation. You do not owe her an explanation.
+1
And it is ok for you to do things differently than your parents.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, you need to stop sharing so much with your parents re: $ and house purchasing. And when your Mom does comment, say thanks for your perspective and redirect the conversation. You do not owe her an explanation.
+1
And it is ok for you to do things differently than your parents.
Anonymous wrote:OP, you need to stop sharing so much with your parents re: $ and house purchasing. And when your Mom does comment, say thanks for your perspective and redirect the conversation. You do not owe her an explanation.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Your parents feel entitled to criticize your choices because they provide you with free childcare. Be independent financially from your parents and you can tell them that you must agree to disagree and LEAVE whenever they insist on bringing it up.
My parents have not provided me with any financial support for the past 25 years, and yet they criticize my decisions. But I just say, "we will have to agree to disagree on this one," and change the topic.
OP here. I think they would butt in regardless. They just have a really laaisez faire attitude towards money. I truly think it comes from having been diplomats where they were never expecting to stay here for very long plus a guaranteed pension plus the fact that their incomes weren't taxed... And their only point of comparison is the super rich super generous younger brother. And in their heads, I'm cheap and stingy bc I married a stingy man.
OP here. I think they would butt in regardless. They just have a really laaisez faire attitude towards money. I truly think it comes from having been diplomats where they were never expecting to stay here for very long plus a guaranteed pension plus the fact that their incomes weren't taxed... And their only point of comparison is the super rich super generous younger brother. And in their heads, I'm cheap and stingy bc I married a stingy man.
Anonymous wrote:Your parents feel entitled to criticize your choices because they provide you with free childcare. Be independent financially from your parents and you can tell them that you must agree to disagree and LEAVE whenever they insist on bringing it up.
My parents have not provided me with any financial support for the past 25 years, and yet they criticize my decisions. But I just say, "we will have to agree to disagree on this one," and change the topic.
Your parents feel entitled to criticize your choices because they provide you with free childcare. Be independent financially from your parents and you can tell them that you must agree to disagree and LEAVE whenever they insist on bringing it up.
Anonymous wrote:Let me get this straight. Your mom is criticizing you for wanting to have a six month emergency fund rather than sinking every dollar into a house??
Is she prepared to bail you out if you have an emergency?