Anonymous wrote:If you have an active kid who sometimes can get a little worked up , what would be the harshest form of acceptable punishment?

I am ok with time outs, but what about screaming at kids, grabbing then etc.. where do you draw the line?

Don't think teachers are allowed to punish kids

OP, we should be told what's the behavior you are asking about.......?
Thank you.

What a weird post.

Grabbing the neck? Really? You are wondering if grabbing the neck is ever acceptable?

PP here.. sorry wasn't finished typing.

OP, "an active kid who sometimes can get a little worked up"

How old? What do you consider "active" or "a little worked up"?

Grabbing the neck is never okay. An arm if it's a safety issue -- fine. Screaming is another no.

Time outs aren't always effective. What would you rather they do since obviously some of their methods are unacceptable.

Anonymous wrote:OP, please give us a clue as to what type of behavior we're talk about.

Yes, please do. Your description brings to mind a child who has little sense of self control. Is there a reason for that, beyond lack of effective discipline?

OP, please give us a clue as to what type of behavior we're talk about.

Safety intervention = any of the above are fine.

Punishment = none of the above are fine

Redirection - holding an arm might be fine.

Grabbing a child is not a form a discipline, it's a form of intervention when the adult perceives that the child may be a danger to himself or others. If I see a kid about to run into a busy street, I'm going to grab him by whatever is closest, whether that's hand, arm, etc. to stop him.

OP here, not in the case of about to injure one's self but in general to discipline kids. We definitely do time outs but I am also wondering what the norm is.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have an active kid who sometimes can get a little worked up , what would be the harshest form of acceptable punishment?

I am ok with time outs, but what about screaming at kids, grabbing then etc.. where do you draw the line?

OP, your description of "an active kid who sometimes can get a little worked up" is concerning to me.

Please explain what you mean.

I'm sensing here a lack of age-appropriate boundaries at home.

None of the methods of "punishment" you mentioned are effective, IMO.

.....in the long run.

Anonymous wrote:If you have an active kid who sometimes can get a little worked up , what would be the harshest form of acceptable punishment?

I am ok with time outs, but what about screaming at kids, grabbing then etc.. where do you draw the line?

OP, your description of "an active kid who sometimes can get a little worked up" is concerning to me.

Please explain what you mean.

I'm sensing here a lack of age-appropriate boundaries at home.

None of the methods of "punishment" you mentioned are effective, IMO.

Well, if the child is attempting to injure him/her self or another kid, I think grabbing is likely necessary to stop it.

If a child is about to injure themselves or other children, quickly grabbing them to prevent the dangerous behavior is acceptable.

If you have an active kid who sometimes can get a little worked up , what would be the harshest form of acceptable punishment?

I am ok with time outs, but what about screaming at kids, grabbing then etc.. where do you draw the line?