Anonymous wrote:I like this offer:
After the kid graduates, offer to refund whatever he spent.

Then he'll get a student loan and ask us to reimburse him.

Anonymous wrote:I like this offer:
After the kid graduates, offer to refund whatever he spent.

I would do this.

No, but in that specific case I might pay for trade school.

He should get a free graduate school, either from employer or from school. He can be a TA or RA or both.

Anonymous wrote: Why is he even going to college? Most people who go in their 30s+ tend to be really motivated because they have seen how life is without a degree

He realized that he won't get anywhere without a degree. Meanwhile, he doesn't seem to be in a hurry - he works by selling cell phones and makes enough to live by himself. I don't know what his plans are - he's graduating next semester and hasn't been actively looking for a job. He thinks he'll get a degree and employers will be waiting for him at the exit with arm wide open.

Fuck no.

That's my answer, and I'm sticking to it.

My husband finished his degree at 32 after going PT for 10 years. Luckily, he started while he was in the military and quite a bit of it was covered by the gov't and/or his employers. He worked his ass off and didn't ever even come close to flunking a class or dropping one.

This moron isn't serious at all and I wouldn't give him one cent.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't be opposed to paying if he was taking it seriously - but with failing and dropping classes he isn't. If he's acting this way with his own money, what's he going to do when it's your money on the line - he'll be even less motivated. Why is he even going to college? Most people who go in their 30s+ tend to be really motivated because they have seen how life is without a degree -- he is still acting like he is 18.

Probably there for the women. But what young woman would want an over the hill 30 y.o. guy flunking out and trying to get his parents to pay for him when they have bright futures ahead of them?

I wouldn't be opposed to paying if he was taking it seriously - but with failing and dropping classes he isn't. If he's acting this way with his own money, what's he going to do when it's your money on the line - he'll be even less motivated. Why is he even going to college? Most people who go in their 30s+ tend to be really motivated because they have seen how life is without a degree -- he is still acting like he is 18.

Anonymous wrote:My in laws paid for my SIL to finish college (she'd done a 2 year degree) when she was in her 40s. Their rationale was that they had paid for 4 years for her brothers so it was fair. Made sense to me, and she's been quite successful since then.

It sounds like this guy would not take the investment seriously.

My in laws paid for my SIL to finish college (she'd done a 2 year degree) when she was in her 40s. Their rationale was that they had paid for 4 years for her brothers so it was fair. Made sense to me, and she's been quite successful since then.

Not sure. Because he's way old to be on his parent's dime. OTOH, if you don't help him now, he might end up mooching off you guys for the rest of his life.

I like this offer:
After the kid graduates, offer to refund whatever he spent.

No I would not.

No

DH has a son from previous marriage. He dropped out of school, got a GED, blew a chance for free college education, worked at dead end jobs for years. Went back to school.

Now he's 30, he's been completing a bachelor's program for 10 years because he's constantly dropping classes or failing others.. His employer pays 75%. He asks us regularly for money fotr tuition and books. He's talking about graduate school. It might take another decade.

If you were us would you support him?