I call it being intolerant of stupidity. Yes, I am a bit intolerant to people who are stupid, or lazy.

Anonymous wrote:Not exactly a warm and nurturing person, are you?

Kids get hurt because they're kids. Older people forget they aren't 30 anymore, and climb ladders. Try empathy.

Yes I am nurturing. When my son skinned both his knees at the park i hugged and held him till he was calm, had 2 bandaids and ready to go back and play.

Not nurturing would be to yell "rub some dirt on it!"

These situations I expect, and I do want to offer comfort because I hate seeing people hurt.

HOWEVER. When my 8 year old is told repeatedly not to slide down the banister, and has already gotten bumps and bruised from it before, slides down and breaks a bone, I am less empathetic. Of course I give the child medical attention, but I don't feel as bad since I have said time and time again not to do it.

Ok. typically I do respond with caring words and empathy. However a lot of times after the fact, I think that something could have been avoided if more care was given to the idea.

No I don't think I'm perfect and when I do dumb things I think " well its your own fault.. deal with it".

Just saying the other day when my neighbors's stroller was stolen she whined and whined about how they really loved their bugaboo and can't afford a new one. And I told them they can have one of our older strollers (a city mini or a maclaren).

I thought to myself, yes it is really shitty that their stroller was stolen and petty crimes happen all the time to a lot of people. but why would you leave in sitting on the side walk of your row house (like 20 steps to the house) all day while you are at work for it to dry off after washing . That just doesn't make sense.

OP is giving me a pit in my stomach. How does anyone deal with a person like that? Those poor children.

I don't think like that, but my DH does. It kind of runs in his family-- they are gossipy. I feel like I have to be Polyanna to avoid joining the gripefest.

Not exactly a warm and nurturing person, are you?

Kids get hurt because they're kids. Older people forget they aren't 30 anymore, and climb ladders. Try empathy.

Anonymous wrote:You are kind of a bitch and don't appear to be that situationally aware of the fact.

I'm inclined to agree with this. In the examples that OP posted, it seems like OP is the one who is both situationally unaware and insensitive.

I think like that, but I try not to talk like that because I know it's mean and a habit I learned in my abusive family. (Not saying you are abusive, just that's the context in which I picked it up.)

I was the child who was always being asked, "Why did you do that?" when something broke or was damaged or lost through regular childhood activities. Um, because I'm 7?

I usually go with something like "that stinks" or "that sounds hard for you" or "that sounds painful" or whatever.

I feel sorry for anyone having to put up with OP.

maril332 wrote:If they are injured or anything I address that, but I am talking about this for example:

MIL: i dislocated my knee stepping off the ladder from the roof
Me: *thinks* why the f were you on the roof.. you're 74 and clumsy. why did you think that was a good idea?

Nope. I do not think like that. That is kinda mean

You are kind of a bitch and don't appear to be that situationally aware of the fact.

Next time just say, "I'm glad you're ok." That's all she needs to hear out of you.

If they are injured or anything I address that, but I am talking about this for example:

MIL: i dislocated my knee stepping off the ladder from the roof
Me: *thinks* why the f were you on the roof.. you're 74 and clumsy. why did you think that was a good idea?

How do you respond to your kids mishaps?

For example, when someone gets hurt out of their own negligence or frankly.. stupidity? Often I feel like "well, what would you anticipate happening if you did that."

I do this with my kids (and I suppose this counts as "natural consequences")

I can't be the only one who thinks like this.