Anonymous wrote:
I have posted there and found it helpful. I have a hopeless in law situation and the site helped me see it. If you bullsh*t they will see through it. There are also many posts that are the same problem that have been seen there again and again. The people who are on that site don't tend to have sweet but misunderstood family members.
A lot of women have a problem speaking up. I think we have slid back into the 1950's expecting women to be nice and not hurt feelings.
The plain truth is that being a healthy adult and good parent means that you are at times going to make other people unhappy by saying no to them. Many of the women who post there are there because they are people pleasers and can't stand up for themselves.
When you combine a people pleaser with a family who may have aggressive, controlling members, the people pleaser is going to feel like a victim.
I think there is a lot to be learned at that site. If you read it enough, you will be better able to get to the root of the problem you are dealing with.
It can be helpful for truly helpless situations. But there is also a lot of "you go girl" when the poster clearly has issues of her own.