If you are married, shouldn't you be in it for the family? Then there really is no resentment for forgoing stuff. We had lots of medical bills for our DS and we didn't eat out and do such things. I didn't resent it. It was just life.

We are getting new gutters before we get new carpet. I really hate our carpet, but new gutters are needed to prevent damage to the house long term. Of course I do think that the fact that my DH cleans the gutters and I don't does have more weight than I'd like in how we cam to the choice. I don't resent that my husband wants gutters more than I want carpet. It is logical, just not my choice. I don't resent it.

My husband and I have equal amounts of personal money. All money goes to the group account and we draw equal monthly allowances for personal use. Everything else is household.

I don't get how in a partnership/equal marriage only one spouse could make a sacrifice. It's a family - you are in it together.

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Anonymous wrote:We are currently saving for a new home and yes, we make lots of sacrifices to save money. Ie no cable, no new cars, no easting out lunch or dinner, etc.

I'm pretty sure I would never be a SAHM for the sake of my family though. My field is too difficult to re-enter after kids are back in school and we don't want to live off less money.

we also waited until we were in our 30s for a family so that we could provide better for them.

I've always kind of wondered about professional fields that evolve. Taking a five year hiatus would make reentering the field extremely difficult IMO

Yep it's something I wish I had thought of when I was choosing college majors/ careers. I truly wish I had chosen teaching. Less money, yes, but they have maternity leave, get off at the same time as their kids, holidays off, etc. Too bad that in the US 90% of careers are anti parents.

Anonymous wrote:We are currently saving for a new home and yes, we make lots of sacrifices to save money. Ie no cable, no new cars, no easting out lunch or dinner, etc.

I'm pretty sure I would never be a SAHM for the sake of my family though. My field is too difficult to re-enter after kids are back in school and we don't want to live off less money.

we also waited until we were in our 30s for a family so that we could provide better for them.

I've always kind of wondered about professional fields that evolve. Taking a five year hiatus would make reentering the field extremely difficult IMO

We are currently saving for a new home and yes, we make lots of sacrifices to save money. Ie no cable, no new cars, no easting out lunch or dinner, etc.

I'm pretty sure I would never be a SAHM for the sake of my family though. My field is too difficult to re-enter after kids are back in school and we don't want to live off less money.

we also waited until we were in our 30s for a family so that we could provide better for them.

Does anyone do it anymore? Reading the thread about husbands who do not make as much money as the wife feels they should (and I would guess that complaint cuts both ways) is a real wake-up call for me about the expectations people have of their partner. Does anyone make financial sacrifices without resenting it for the good of the family anymore?