Have you neutered the male cat?

While I hope this isn't true for your kitties, sometimes cats just don't like each other. Also, you do have to break them up when they fight, otherwise the male could injure the female. GL. Post what worked!

oops didn't mean to repost. I hope this helps. We had great luck with this approach. Good luck.

Let them have access to each other through a door. Preferably, one where their paws can reach underneath and they can touch one another and smell one another. Let that go on for as long as necessary for any hissing or spitting to stop. Then slowly allow then to have access to each other in a confined space (like one room) with supervision so that he cannot chase her.

Anonymous wrote:Let them have access to each other through a door. Preferably, one where their paws can reach underneath and they can touch one another and smell one another. Let that go on for as long as necessary for any hissing or spitting to stop. Then slowly allow then to have access to each other in a confined space (like one room) with supervision so that he cannot chase her.

Great advice-- I will try that. Thank you!

The funny thing is that since they've been separated, he walks around the house meowing as loud as he can, obviously looking for her. I told him that he didn't treat her right.

Let them have access to each other through a door. Preferably, one where their paws can reach underneath and they can touch one another and smell one another. Let that go on for as long as necessary for any hissing or spitting to stop. Then slowly allow then to have access to each other in a confined space (like one room) with supervision so that he cannot chase her.

We have four cats. All under age 5. Three female, one male. The male has become aggressive toward the other cats-- chasing them around the house, tackling them. Not sure if he's trying to play or something else. Two of the girls don't seem to mind, but one of them started peeing and pooping all over the house, a total nightmare.

I read that competition for food or attention could lead to these types of situations. So-- as of last week, the female now has her own room in the house. She is calm and happy in there, and is using the litter box perfectly. I go in there every day and spend a lot of time with her, and she loves it. She is really needy. I bring her out at night so she can spend time with everyone in the family room. When I do that, I put the male kitty in a separate room by himself so he doesn't go after her. I pay him special attention when she's not around. It's safe to say that all cats are getting a huge amount of attention from me as we work to solve their psychological issues!

My question is how to go about reintroducing them so we don't have to keep them separated like this forever. It is a major hassle. Any tips?