Could you go in w/ your parents and give a gift? My own cousins did this for me when I got married; the four cousins, all siblings, got together and gave me a place setting of my dishes.

We had a very small wedding where almost all of our guests were from out of state. Not everyone brought a gift and that was just fine with us because we didn't get married for possessions.

I say $50 per person in your party. If you were bringing a guest, then $100. If just yourself, then $50.

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Anonymous wrote:How much it costs you to get to the wedding should not be connected to the gift, nor should the fact that you're not bringing a date. I would feel awful to give any of my cousins less than $200 for their weddings.

If you can't afford to go, then don't go and send your regrets with a proper gift.

Are you Jewish? I find the they give larger cash gifts than most ethnicities.

I am a wasp and I think it is fine for you to spend around forty dollars. If you were older and had a six figure job, i would say around 100 for a close cousin or sixty for a not close cousin. Different cultures or families might expect more.

You absolutely do not need to pay for your plate.

Wow, that is an insulting gift. Even when I was making $30k and in my early 20's I gave $200.

$50 is fine.

Fifty dollars is fine

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much it costs you to get to the wedding should not be connected to the gift, nor should the fact that you're not bringing a date. I would feel awful to give any of my cousins less than $200 for their weddings.

If you can't afford to go, then don't go and send your regrets with a proper gift.

So you think the gift is more important than her presence??

Her PRESENCE is more important than presents!!!

OP here. Thanks for the replies so far. I do think it is relevant that I am not bringing a date just in that a lesser monetary gift would be given... correct? I do not have much experience with this so maybe I am wrong. I do want to give a gift, whether it's something nicer from the registry or cash instead that was maybe $50. I do think it is important to be there, and I am excited to go. I don't think the cousin will care about the gift at all, but I am just trying to figure out what works in this case.

I am staying at the hotel where there is a block of rooms. I do not know the city and it will be easier to arrange getting around staying where more people are.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much it costs you to get to the wedding should not be connected to the gift, nor should the fact that you're not bringing a date. I would feel awful to give any of my cousins less than $200 for their weddings.

If you can't afford to go, then don't go and send your regrets with a proper gift.

So you think the gift is more important than her presence??

Her PRESENCE is more important than presents!!!

My cousins would want me there regardless of whether or not there was a gift involved. That said, I would rather stay at a red roof inn over the Hilton if it meant being able to give a gift.

When I asked my cousin where he registered for his out-of-town wedding that I could not attend, he replied that they did not register since they are asking everyone to travel for their wedding. I assume from that that they were not expecting gifts from anyone in attendance.

Anonymous wrote:How much it costs you to get to the wedding should not be connected to the gift, nor should the fact that you're not bringing a date. I would feel awful to give any of my cousins less than $200 for their weddings.

If you can't afford to go, then don't go and send your regrets with a proper gift.

So you think the gift is more important than her presence??

Anonymous wrote:How much it costs you to get to the wedding should not be connected to the gift, nor should the fact that you're not bringing a date. I would feel awful to give any of my cousins less than $200 for their weddings.

If you can't afford to go, then don't go and send your regrets with a proper gift.

Are you Jewish? I find the they give larger cash gifts than most ethnicities.

I am a wasp and I think it is fine for you to spend around forty dollars. If you were older and had a six figure job, i would say around 100 for a close cousin or sixty for a not close cousin. Different cultures or families might expect more.

You absolutely do not need to pay for your plate.

How much it costs you to get to the wedding should not be connected to the gift, nor should the fact that you're not bringing a date. I would feel awful to give any of my cousins less than $200 for their weddings.

If you can't afford to go, then don't go and send your regrets with a proper gift.

Do you have a talent? Can you paint them a picture? Or write their names in calligraphy? You could even take a Tom of photos and send the best 2 framed as a gift after the wedding.

Personally, I think that in your situation, your presence is the best gift.

Hello,

Looking for advice about what type of gift would be appropriate for my cousin's out of town wedding. I will be attending alone (with my immediate family, no date) and must fly there and am paying for the flight and to rent a hotel room, so it is getting pretty expensive. I work full-time but am in graduate school so not making much money and this is already a large expenditure. I've read that the common etiquette is to give a gift and pay for your plate- give at least $100 or so. In this circumstance, what would you do with limited finances? I want to celebrate them but am not in a place to give a gift + $100 on top of the plane tickets and hotel.

Thanks