Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:51     Subject: I hate being a working mom!
Anonymous wrote:

No no no...you see, because I hate lady parts, I should be home! Men should be working at a level (granted, my husband is 28) where their wives will stay home and take care of everything! And a little extra - I mean, a good wife will, say, bake brownies with the kids, then send them to work with the husband the next day!
So, I'M the bad parent because I have to work, my husband is a bad parent because he can't support a family yet (which, given his age...how many 28 year olds can?). Welcome to my daily hell.


Daily hell indeed. I'm so sorry, PP!
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:49     Subject: I hate being a working mom!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Work is my relaxing place. Won't trade it for the world.


You are very lucky. I am completely burned out between working, mothering, and trying to find some time for me, which consists of working out at 5 am. I feel like I am failing at everything, the most important of which is being a good mother.


I agree, and I think a lot of this is the rush to return to your job after baby is born because leave is (largely, for most) unpaid and there's no real job security. Just when you get in to a routine, it changes again. Then all of your leave is used to take care of the baby (dr's visits, sick, day care/nanny issues).

It's hard, no doubt about it. There's no time to just....be.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:48     Subject: I hate being a working mom!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

I would love to work 9-2:30, four days a week. That would be ideal.


Amen. I'd like to work 8/8:30-3 and then do what I need to when kid starts first grade.
Sadly, no one cares what moms want.
It does stink when you don't have a choice or any control over your own schedule. And what I hate most is working with other all men whose wives don't work and the "pity party" I get like I'm the bad parent because I have to work (or the implication that my husband is lazy and can't take care of me, which he's not and he has a job).


If you're a bad parent because you work, so are your bozo men co-workers.


No no no...you see, because I hate lady parts, I should be home! Men should be working at a level (granted, my husband is 28) where their wives will stay home and take care of everything! And a little extra - I mean, a good wife will, say, bake brownies with the kids, then send them to work with the husband the next day!
So, I'M the bad parent because I have to work, my husband is a bad parent because he can't support a family yet (which, given his age...how many 28 year olds can?). Welcome to my daily hell.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:45     Subject: I hate being a working mom!
Anonymous wrote:Work is my relaxing place. Won't trade it for the world.


You are very lucky. I am completely burned out between working, mothering, and trying to find some time for me, which consists of working out at 5 am. I feel like I am failing at everything, the most important of which is being a good mother.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:39     Subject: I hate being a working mom!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

I would love to work 9-2:30, four days a week. That would be ideal.


Amen. I'd like to work 8/8:30-3 and then do what I need to when kid starts first grade.
Sadly, no one cares what moms want.
It does stink when you don't have a choice or any control over your own schedule. And what I hate most is working with other all men whose wives don't work and the "pity party" I get like I'm the bad parent because I have to work (or the implication that my husband is lazy and can't take care of me, which he's not and he has a job).


If you're a bad parent because you work, so are your bozo men co-workers.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:37     Subject: I hate being a working mom!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't hate it, but I totally get you. I am really envious of all my SAHM friends. I do like my job, though, and I like that I get home at night and can talk to my husband about work stuff, not just kid stuff. He likes it, too.

I would love to work 9-2:30, four days a week. That would be ideal.


Who wouldn't? I want a pony too,


Yes, just keep thinking it can never happen and it never will happen.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:37     Subject: I hate being a working mom!
Work is my relaxing place. Won't trade it for the world.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:30     Subject: I hate being a working mom!
Anonymous wrote:I don't hate it, but I totally get you. I am really envious of all my SAHM friends. I do like my job, though, and I like that I get home at night and can talk to my husband about work stuff, not just kid stuff. He likes it, too.

I would love to work 9-2:30, four days a week. That would be ideal.


Who wouldn't? I want a pony too,
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:29     Subject: I hate being a working mom!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

I would love to work 9-2:30, four days a week. That would be ideal.


Amen. I'd like to work 8/8:30-3 and then do what I need to when kid starts first grade.
Sadly, no one cares what moms want.
It does stink when you don't have a choice or any control over your own schedule. And what I hate most is working with other all men whose wives don't work and the "pity party" I get like I'm the bad parent because I have to work (or the implication that my husband is lazy and can't take care of me, which he's not and he has a job).


+1

I like my job! I just don't want to do it 60 hours a week! Right now, I want to go home and snuggle my sick baby, who is home with a sitter today.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:29     Subject: I hate being a working mom!
I don't mind working (and am not cut out for full time motherhood), but just wish I had a shorter commute than an hour and a half (when there's no traffic or delays).
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:18     Subject: I hate being a working mom!
Anonymous wrote:I don't hate it, but I totally get you. I am really envious of all my SAHM friends. I do like my job, though, and I like that I get home at night and can talk to my husband about work stuff, not just kid stuff. He likes it, too.

I would love to work 9-2:30, four days a week. That would be ideal.


+1. I absolutely covet a schedule like that!
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:17     Subject: I hate being a working mom!
Anonymous wrote:

I would love to work 9-2:30, four days a week. That would be ideal.


Amen. I'd like to work 8/8:30-3 and then do what I need to when kid starts first grade.
Sadly, no one cares what moms want.
It does stink when you don't have a choice or any control over your own schedule. And what I hate most is working with other all men whose wives don't work and the "pity party" I get like I'm the bad parent because I have to work (or the implication that my husband is lazy and can't take care of me, which he's not and he has a job).
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:13     Subject: I hate being a working mom!
I don't hate it, but I totally get you. I am really envious of all my SAHM friends. I do like my job, though, and I like that I get home at night and can talk to my husband about work stuff, not just kid stuff. He likes it, too.

I would love to work 9-2:30, four days a week. That would be ideal.
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:13     Subject: Re:I hate being a working mom!
Aw, OP. I could have written your post word for word.

Yes, there's all the "well you're a great example to your kids/you have two sources of income/you are challenged by being around other adults/life as a SAHM isn't perfect either/etc.." platitudes, all of which have some truth. But, reality is, if I knew our family was financially secure long-term without my income I'd be at home with my child in a heartbeat.

Know that you aren't alone, if we worked in the same office I'd come give you a hug right now!
Anonymous
Post 08/27/2013 09:10     Subject: I hate being a working mom!
There, I said it. I don't have a choice, I have to work. But I am so envious of all the SAHMs who get to take their kids to kindergarten, pick them up, hear about their kid's day. I don't get home until around 5pm and by then the kids are grumpy and tired. Okay, pity party over, back to work.