Anonymous
Post 08/29/2013 17:54     Subject: Re:Struggling to leave Catholicism
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think I would like to remarry in the church. I at least want it as an option and not have it closed off to me.


Then you need to follow the RCC rules on getting the annulment. I am an atheist raised Catholic, married to some one who was married before. Because DH is Military, we could not wait for an annulment, which we needed even though, he is not Catholic, his ex is not Catholic and he was not Married in Catholic Church. Those are the rules. We did not like them so we got married in a Presbertyian church. You either play by the rules or find somewhere else to get married.


If you are an atheist, why did you get married in a church at all?


I read it that she was an "Atheist raised Catholic" meaning, she was raised by Atheists but is now a Catholic...pp, is that correct?
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 23:42     Subject: Re:Struggling to leave Catholicism
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think I would like to remarry in the church. I at least want it as an option and not have it closed off to me.


Then you need to follow the RCC rules on getting the annulment. I am an atheist raised Catholic, married to some one who was married before. Because DH is Military, we could not wait for an annulment, which we needed even though, he is not Catholic, his ex is not Catholic and he was not Married in Catholic Church. Those are the rules. We did not like them so we got married in a Presbertyian church. You either play by the rules or find somewhere else to get married.


If you are an atheist, why did you get married in a church at all?
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 23:24     Subject: Struggling to leave Catholicism
Why would you want to annul a marriage in which children were conceived?
Anonymous
Post 08/25/2013 14:24     Subject: Struggling to leave Catholicism
I was "still catholic" at the time of the wedding. I was doing it to "make my parents happy". Fast forward 7 years, nobody, mom, dad, brother or sister is still a "catholic". Sister who had catholic wedding is the only believer in the family and she is Methodist.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2013 19:08     Subject: Re:Struggling to leave Catholicism
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think I would like to remarry in the church. I at least want it as an option and not have it closed off to me.


Then you need to follow the RCC rules on getting the annulment. I am an atheist raised Catholic, married to some one who was married before. Because DH is Military, we could not wait for an annulment, which we needed even though, he is not Catholic, his ex is not Catholic and he was not Married in Catholic Church. Those are the rules. We did not like them so we got married in a Presbertyian church. You either play by the rules or find somewhere else to get married.


If none of you are practicing Catholics why would you be getting married in the church anyway thus even needing an annulment?


OP here, can't tell if you are directing this to me. If so, I am still a practicing Catholic. I'm also wondering why a Catholic turned atheist and non-Catholic would want a Catholic wedding.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2013 18:04     Subject: Re:Struggling to leave Catholicism
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think I would like to remarry in the church. I at least want it as an option and not have it closed off to me.


Then you need to follow the RCC rules on getting the annulment. I am an atheist raised Catholic, married to some one who was married before. Because DH is Military, we could not wait for an annulment, which we needed even though, he is not Catholic, his ex is not Catholic and he was not Married in Catholic Church. Those are the rules. We did not like them so we got married in a Presbertyian church. You either play by the rules or find somewhere else to get married.


If none of you are practicing Catholics why would you be getting married in the church anyway thus even needing an annulment?
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2013 17:42     Subject: Struggling to leave Catholicism
Lutheran is similar, but more accepting.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2013 17:40     Subject: Struggling to leave Catholicism
I went through it and thought it was worth it. I remarried in the church and our children have both been baptized.
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2013 17:19     Subject: Re:Struggling to leave Catholicism
Go through*
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2013 17:19     Subject: Re:Struggling to leave Catholicism
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think I would like to remarry in the church. I at least want it as an option and not have it closed off to me.


Then you need to follow the RCC rules on getting the annulment. I am an atheist raised Catholic, married to some one who was married before. Because DH is Military, we could not wait for an annulment, which we needed even though, he is not Catholic, his ex is not Catholic and he was not Married in Catholic Church. Those are the rules. We did not like them so we got married in a Presbertyian church. You either play by the rules or find somewhere else to get married.


Duh! I'm not complaining about the annulment rules; I simply said I was unsure whether to go to the process and was looking for some thoughts from others who have gone through it and whether it was worth it to them to do so. Thanks!
Anonymous
Post 08/24/2013 09:01     Subject: Re:Struggling to leave Catholicism
Anonymous wrote:I think I would like to remarry in the church. I at least want it as an option and not have it closed off to me.


Then you need to follow the RCC rules on getting the annulment. I am an atheist raised Catholic, married to some one who was married before. Because DH is Military, we could not wait for an annulment, which we needed even though, he is not Catholic, his ex is not Catholic and he was not Married in Catholic Church. Those are the rules. We did not like them so we got married in a Presbertyian church. You either play by the rules or find somewhere else to get married.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2013 21:43     Subject: Re:Struggling to leave Catholicism
I think I would like to remarry in the church. I at least want it as an option and not have it closed off to me.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2013 18:01     Subject: Struggling to leave Catholicism
And the bonus being the Pope recently said the church needs to review the allulment process.

And does your next marriage need to be a "church" wedding.

My MIL's third marriage was her first church wedding. For a women who goes to latin mass and gives us rosaries every easter, i think she somehow is skirting the system. (of course my husband is a *astered in the eyes of thr church)

Find a church with an active social justice group and ypu will be welcomef.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2013 17:13     Subject: Struggling to leave Catholicism
I know many people who have divorced, never anulled, but still consider themselves Catholic. It's not an issue unless you really have your heart set on marrying in the Church again. I'd find a forward thinking, welcoming parish, and make my home there.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2013 17:09     Subject: Struggling to leave Catholicism
Does anyone here have experience with leaving the Church when you didn't really want to because you were unsure you wanted to go through the annulment process following a divorce? I'm planning on remarrying and my future spouse is not Catholic. I've tried different churches and found an Episcopal church I really like, but it's just not quite the same to me spiritually. Should I just move on?