Anonymous wrote:OP here. I would've cut them loose but it doesn't just end with me. I am not the only child. However, my brother passed away 4 years ago from cancer. My SIL could never stand my parents, especially after they constantly criticized how she cared for him when he was sick. Btw, they never ever stayed with him the hospital or drove him to chemo or offered to watch the kids. A few months after the funeral, SIL moved back to Cali to be close with her family and took her three kids. In four years, my parents saw my nieces and nephew exactly once for 2 hours. At the airport. ANd they managed to scare the hell out of these kids by constant bickering. I am the only one in the area left. I guess they are feeling lonely and old, but they continue to resort to threats.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Maybe you should try to develop your own relationship with them first as a trial, to see how you feel? Have lunch or coffee and see how they act. If it starts to go downhill than you will know that they are the same (which, lets be real) they probably are). Keep doing it until they start realizing how they are 'supposed' to treat you. Might take a whole. Then when they are on the right track you can start with the play dates in public places. This way you'll be sure that they're for real before exposing your kids.
This is pp again. Why? Why should OP do this? she hasn't spoken to them in 2 years. she gains nothing - absolutely nothing - by developing a relationship with them. And could potentially have them badmouth her to her kids. Even if they figure out how they are supposed to treat OP, the minute they'll be alone with the kids, they'll go back to their real opinions about their daughter.
Sorry OP, you're dealing with this. It sucks when your own parents treat you this way.
Anonymous wrote:You and pp may be a better person than I am, but I would ignore them, their requests, and never speak to them again. Personally I think their behaviour is grounds for no contact ever again.
Anonymous wrote:Maybe you should try to develop your own relationship with them first as a trial, to see how you feel? Have lunch or coffee and see how they act. If it starts to go downhill than you will know that they are the same (which, lets be real) they probably are). Keep doing it until they start realizing how they are 'supposed' to treat you. Might take a whole. Then when they are on the right track you can start with the play dates in public places. This way you'll be sure that they're for real before exposing your kids.
Anonymous wrote:Oh and they can't get visitation, very doubtful. What right do they have? I could be wrong.