I feel like I work with a bunch of idiots. This place sucks. I want out, but my schedule will drastically change if I leave. I got really lucky. But, there is no promotion potential. Any road to up from here is a pay cut. I don't want another job doing what I do, and even though I have lots of other skills in my field, I haven't gotten paid to do those things yet.

I stopped drinking. It has gotten me through years of this shit.

I loathe mine.
But I'm sure I'd loathe not being able to pay my mortgage or save for our future even more. I wish it weren't a "this or that". We are middle class, don't like an fancy lifestyle...I think if we did, I'd feel OK giving it up to leave this place.

Hopefully, my husband's job promotes well and I can find something else. But for now, I'm the bigger earner and I hate this place. It's a combo of the job, the management, and the environment.

My job is pretty miserable... not sure if it's the menial nature of the job, the management or the fact that I really just want to hang out with my sweet 14 mo DD everyday, but I'm glad that there are people out there that can relate. My DH is often busy with his job and can get frustrated but doesn't understand what it's like to not LIKE what you do vice just having a bad day now and then. I seriously have to drag myself out of bed in the morning and pep talk on my way in the door. I'm an EA for a high rankng official in the IC... one hopefully who will be saying adios to this joke of a "career path" and hello to being a SAHM (not all sunshine and roses, but better than this) after the holidays. Until then, I run, I play with my girl and I whine/wine

I had a toxic job a few years ago. It was literally making me sick. I quit without having another job lined up (it was before marriage and kids) because my health is more important than any job. I ended up finding a job pretty quickly (I had been looking for a while) and things turned out fine. Best decision I ever made.

Given the state of the economy and the fact that you have a family and are the only earner, I would suggest devoting all of your extra time (ha! sure you have a lot of that right now...) to looking for and applying to jobs. Also, network, network, network.

I recently left a very toxic job. The work itself was not a fit (I was transferred within the company after I came back from maternity leave, otherwise I would not have considered it), the boss was a total bitch and made my life completely miserable, there were long hours etc. I realized that I could just not take it and started looking for another job. It took a while, but I am now in a new job and it's much better. It's far from a "perfect" job, but the skills/line of work is a much better fit with my prior experience, the new boss and I get along really well, the hours are more steady... And I am so much happier.

Good luck to all of you - hang in there!

OP here. My spouse if looking for work now, and I hope will have something within a few months. That will take the pressure off. I even had a couple of panic attacks this week from work. Can't live like that, but I've got two kids who need me to be ok. As soon as my spouse is working, I'll try to make a change. Thanks everyone for the support.

I was in one of those jobs. Stressed beyond belief, non of my normal coping mechanisms were working (exercise, taking vacation days etc). I was getting all kinds of symptoms but it was when I was starting to drink each and every night I got home to lessen the pain that I knew I could not keep it up - not for the salary, time off, retirement benefits etc. I was in a toxic environment, and I was turning my life outside of work into a toxic environment. I started looking for jobs but realized how hard it was to find the time to look and deal with the crab at the office. I also was afraid that I was in such a bad situation that I couldn't sell myself to another place feeling the way I did. So I starting saving like crazy, cutting back in everything we did (spouse does work so at least we had another salary). Just knowing what I was playing to do and that I had an out made me feel so much better. When we felt like we had a financial cushion in place I gave my 2 weeks notice. Oh that was a great feeling. I gave myself a month to relax and then I went to work finding a new job. Took a little while but I wanted to make sure it was a good fit and not just a paycheck. The best decision I made was to quit, my Blood pressure dropped, my happiness returned. When you are that type of toxic environment it impacts every aspect of your life. Find a way to get out - for yourself and those around you. Life is too short to be that miserable.

OP, can't you get your spouse to go back to work? It would at least take some pressure off you, maybe you could switch jobs then.

Anonymous wrote:What kind of jobs are these?

Thanks.

I'm the one with daily migraines and I am an accountant.

What kind of jobs are these?

Thanks.

I hate my job with a passion. My boss is retired in place. He does no work but when the shit hits the fan he throws his staff under the bus. It is a very busy office and he keeps coming to me and my colleague with his assignments. I did the work in his PD for a long time but I've had to skip level him recently since he was spending time fooling around while the rest of us were busy and stuff was festering. I want to walk out and could afford to take a couple of months off, but am afraid that a gap in the resume might be held against me. My job is making me physically sick. I have migraines most every day.

I recently made a job change, and realized almost immediately that it was a huge mistake. So angry at myself for being so stupid. My boss bad-mouths everyone behind their backs, gives assignments and 6 months later changes his mind, etc. Any other nightmare situations out there?

Yes, I f*cking hate my job. Detest almost everything about it.

How do I get through the days? I calculate my pension, holidays, next pay check etc. I think about how in geological time, a couple of decades is nothing. I think about paying for my kids' college education. I dream about winning the lottery. I drink booze in the evening. I count down every single minute, hour and day

In the same situation, but im applying to jobs daily even when im at work im looking at job sites. That's what keeps me going, applying to jobs and knowing that there is an exit somewhere and hopefully soon enough I will find something

It takes everything I have to get out of bed and go to work every day. I'm the sole wage earner for my family, and am in a very toxic awful work environment. I'm trying to stick it out because the family needs me to, but that doesn't make it any easier.

Is anyone else having a hard time with work? How do get through the days?