Anonymous
07/23/2013 10:53
Subject: need advice - DH laid off
My DH was laid off for three months. The most difficult thing was staying positive during the time. He got depressed and felt really angry at his job as he and his co-workers only got a few hours notice that they were laid off.
Luckily he still had his part time job and was able to get money from that along with unemployment. My advice is to encourage him as much as possible and don't let him get into a slump because ultimately bills still have to be paid and he needs to hustle in finding a job. It is definitely tough out here.
Luckily he still had his part time job and was able to get money from that along with unemployment. My advice is to encourage him as much as possible and don't let him get into a slump because ultimately bills still have to be paid and he needs to hustle in finding a job. It is definitely tough out here.
Anonymous
07/23/2013 10:18
Subject: need advice - DH laid off
Anonymous wrote:DH has been laid off for a few months now. My advice to you is to sit down and discuss what your expectations are vis a vis your husbands schedule, budgeting and ultimately what he (and you) would consider a reasonable offer. I regret not discussing things at the outset. Also, if you are trying to maintain some level of privacy, what guidelines you will both follow.
We are in a winging it pattern and I feel very resentful of that. It's not too late for me to tAke my own advice but the atmosphere in my home is not what it was a few months ago. Helplessness and rejection are not great mood enhancers....
Good idea here, on job expectations and salary acceptability. My DH spent his first 6 mos unemployed being very picky, and now he's competing with new Grad school graduates, people on summer vacations, etc.
Be intense and everywhere those first couple months. It IS a numbers game, not a wait and see game for each interaction. And of course an offer is not an offer until they send over the paperwork...
Anonymous
07/23/2013 09:32
Subject: Re:need advice - DH laid off
Anonymous wrote:You need to talk about household responsbilities. I'm a DH and when I was laid off for six months, I took 2 weeks off (my previous job was extremely stressful) only doing job hunting and trying to restore my equilibrium and then I took over the household. I kept the house clean, did the shopping, meal planning and meals (the shopping and meals had always been my chores, so that wasn't any different). And I did job hunting around these. I put in a minimum of 2 hours hunting the web for jobs, updating my resume, applying for jobs, and networking. I also applied for unemployment and made sure that I registered with MD's DLLR. But as another PP mentioned, having a routine for the days that did not include unspecified leisure time really helped.
Wow. You sound awesome!
Anonymous
07/23/2013 09:27
Subject: need advice - DH laid off
DH has been laid off for a few months now. My advice to you is to sit down and discuss what your expectations are vis a vis your husbands schedule, budgeting and ultimately what he (and you) would consider a reasonable offer. I regret not discussing things at the outset. Also, if you are trying to maintain some level of privacy, what guidelines you will both follow.
We are in a winging it pattern and I feel very resentful of that. It's not too late for me to tAke my own advice but the atmosphere in my home is not what it was a few months ago. Helplessness and rejection are not great mood enhancers....
We are in a winging it pattern and I feel very resentful of that. It's not too late for me to tAke my own advice but the atmosphere in my home is not what it was a few months ago. Helplessness and rejection are not great mood enhancers....
Anonymous
07/22/2013 20:10
Subject: Re:need advice - DH laid off
You need to talk about household responsbilities. I'm a DH and when I was laid off for six months, I took 2 weeks off (my previous job was extremely stressful) only doing job hunting and trying to restore my equilibrium and then I took over the household. I kept the house clean, did the shopping, meal planning and meals (the shopping and meals had always been my chores, so that wasn't any different). And I did job hunting around these. I put in a minimum of 2 hours hunting the web for jobs, updating my resume, applying for jobs, and networking. I also applied for unemployment and made sure that I registered with MD's DLLR. But as another PP mentioned, having a routine for the days that did not include unspecified leisure time really helped.
Anonymous
07/22/2013 20:00
Subject: need advice - DH laid off
Anonymous wrote:DH will do best if he has a schedule. A schedule that does not involve a couch or tv.
He needs to mentally commit to being up and dressed each day, breakfasted and ready to work at his job of looking for a job from home, by 9 am each day. He needs to work out each work day.
very good advice.
the last part is KEY. it is so easy to just say 'fuck it' and let yourself go.
This might be the perfect opportunity to set a fitness goal that he didn't have time to reach before. You never know how long the job search can last and it can get mentally depressing. Through excersize/working out even if he's 6-7months out of work and feeling down one little positive might be that he's in the best shape of his life and he can use that as a spark to rebound from the depths of depression.
Anonymous
07/22/2013 19:58
Subject: need advice - DH laid off
sell weed.
Anonymous
07/22/2013 19:25
Subject: need advice - DH laid off
What field? Good for you that you were financially prepared.
Anonymous
07/22/2013 19:13
Subject: need advice - DH laid off
Anonymous wrote:DH will do best if he has a schedule. A schedule that does not involve a couch or tv.
He needs to mentally commit to being up and dressed each day, breakfasted and ready to work at his job of looking for a job from home, by 9 am each day. He needs to work out each work day.
This is good advice.
Anonymous
07/22/2013 18:11
Subject: need advice - DH laid off
DH will do best if he has a schedule. A schedule that does not involve a couch or tv.
He needs to mentally commit to being up and dressed each day, breakfasted and ready to work at his job of looking for a job from home, by 9 am each day. He needs to work out each work day.
He needs to mentally commit to being up and dressed each day, breakfasted and ready to work at his job of looking for a job from home, by 9 am each day. He needs to work out each work day.
Anonymous
07/22/2013 18:06
Subject: need advice - DH laid off
DH just got laid off, we will be okay for about a year on my salary and savings we think. other than apply for unemployment, start networking and cutting the budget any other advice from those that have been in this position? we are kind of stressed, tia...