Anonymous wrote:I'm first generation American and so is my husband. Even though our parents are from different countries (Mexico & Hungary). I know that once I am ready to have my first child and after I take maternity leave that I will have either my parents helping and my inlaws taking turns so I can go back to work. I would take it as a cultural differnce, they only mean to help. If you are on good terms with them why not?Just make sure that you let them know it's your house and your rules. However if you are uncomfortable with them coming over to help then I suggest that you be honest with them.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You have to find a compromise - certainly with the length of time, probably with the full time childcare aspect, and with houseguest expectations. Start with a shorter period (no one said a 2 day weekend, nor 3+ weeks!), they should come when you and or hubby are home more- not at transition times, and they need to do more than sit around all day and have free everything (and if they are elderly perhaps you need to see them at their place another time.).
Unless you have serious money (which can be fleeting), find a compromise.
Ummm, what part of out of country you did not understand?
What's your point exactly? Flying over the atlantic or pacific gives you the automatic right to do whatever you want, when you want, for how long you want, etc.?
We have no family nearby in driving distance, but also not over $1k flying distance except for high season times, which we must pay given work schedules. For houseguests we find a solution, where one side does not feel taken advantage of or walked all over. If there are several cultures involved all must realize that too, one extreme or self-centered attitude does not overrule all others. That can create an unhealthy environment quickly.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You have to find a compromise - certainly with the length of time, probably with the full time childcare aspect, and with houseguest expectations. Start with a shorter period (no one said a 2 day weekend, nor 3+ weeks!), they should come when you and or hubby are home more- not at transition times, and they need to do more than sit around all day and have free everything (and if they are elderly perhaps you need to see them at their place another time.).
Unless you have serious money (which can be fleeting), find a compromise.
Ummm, what part of out of country you did not understand?
Anonymous wrote:You have to find a compromise - certainly with the length of time, probably with the full time childcare aspect, and with houseguest expectations. Start with a shorter period (no one said a 2 day weekend, nor 3+ weeks!), they should come when you and or hubby are home more- not at transition times, and they need to do more than sit around all day and have free everything (and if they are elderly perhaps you need to see them at their place another time.).
Unless you have serious money (which can be fleeting), find a compromise.