Anonymous wrote:As others have said, come to an agreement with your husband about house rules. Also, he needs to be the disciplinarian whenever around. So you don't get into the whole "you are not my mom!" argument.
Make her feel really welcome when she arrives. Maybe decorate the room she will stay in with a welcome sign and streamers or something. Maybe even have a little welcome gift or welcome cupcakes the first day she is there.
I love the idea of finding out what foods she likes. I might be afraid to take her food shopping for fear she would try to buy all her favorite junk and you'd be in a position of having to say "no."
If you want to do a bonding activity like see a movie with her or going to the American doll place or a baseball game or something, let you husband present the idea in private so if she isn't ready she can decline and you won't have to have an uncomfortable outing.
This should not be an issue. It's OP's house. Grownups in a house make the house rules. OP should not be afraid to say no to the child asking for unreasonable things. She is 7 and knows damn well that only asking for junk food is completely unacceptable and she shouldn't have the expectation of getting that each time she comes to this house. If she wants chocolate milk, or a specific type of cookies that's all well and good. But she needs to be included in picking out the fruits and veggies she'll eat as well.