Last time you had just met him. Now you are in love with him? Um, okay.

we already heard about this guy OP, are you expecting a different answer?

I married the man my parents told me not to marry, and whom even now they can barely be civil to, but his profile is still vaaaaastly different from what you are describing.

1. Enjoy his love if it makes you happy.
2. Do not expect anyone to support you in your decision to have a relationship with this man.
3. Do not give this man access to your bank accounts or credit card.
4. Do help him get a job. Aren't there associations that help ex-inmates get connected to potential employers?

This may not turn out well. But, you already know that and accept it, right?

What can I do so everyone respects our relationship more?

Nothing. If you want to be in a relationship with this man, it is your right as an adult. It is a bad idea, and most people are going to think so. If you don't, that's fine, stay with him. But you aren't going to change anyone's mind.

I thought jeff had called you out as a troll before ...

Anonymous wrote:Is this some kind of joke? Do you expect some kind of validation here? Run as fast as you can...both from this forum and from this loser.

It could be a joke but this person made the same post a couple weeks ago.

She mentioned in that post it was an interracial relationship and I have to admit my after reading that my first thought was she was an overweight white woman. As one myself, I reguarly would get hit on by black men who had similiar profiles as the OP's bf. I wouldn't date anyone with that profile regardless of race but for some reason white loser, felons by and large didn't seem to have any interest in overweight, white women.

Anonymous wrote:I am madly in love with my BF. He treats me well, just like a woman should be treated. Yes guys, he even opens up doors for me and all that. He is a great listener and very supportive of my needs, etc.

The problem is that EVERYONE I know thinks he is a loser

he has 2 felonies on his record plus his father has a restraining order on him which prevents him from being even considered for work. He had his parental rights terminated a few yrs back due to his excessive jail time and can no longer see his three kids. He has been out for about 2.5 yrs and is slowly getting his life back together.
He really wants to get a job so he can support himself and hopefully get his parental rights reinstated again.

I know he has a tough road ahead, but I really want to help him reclaim his life again.
Doesn't everyone deserve a second chance?.

Okay, let's review! You think everyone deserves a second chance. Okay, that's fair. Let's see what happened with your boyfriend. He was found GUILTY of two felonies. Someone took out a restraining order on him. Someone who knew him better than you, for a longer period of time than you. Honey, he GOT a second chance. Nobody goes from zero to two felonies without something in between. There WAS a second chance, and he blew that.

Let me ask you this: you want to help him reclaim his life. How do you plan to do that? He seems to need a job and a place to live. Are you going to let him move in with you, and open your own business and then hire him full-time? Otherwise, how do you propose that you'll get him a job?

Now you might want to tell me "Hey, everyone makes mistakes; nobody's perfect!" to which I would say you are right. But none of my mistakes result in someone taking out a restraining order against me. Or me being convicted of two felonies. Or my parental rights being taken away. My mistakes are that I forget to buy toilet paper and have to go back to the store twice in one day. Or that I accidentally step on my dog's paw when she's underfoot. He did not have a little whoopsie here. He made clear and concise decisions to break the law in a very serious way. You understand a felony is not shoplifting a pack of gum when you're 12, right? It's not stealing your dad's car and then getting in a car accident that's your fault when you're 16. A felony is a VERY big deal, and he has two of them.

Anonymous wrote:Total loser. Red flags everywhere. And parental rights don't get terminated for "excessive jail time." Run fast.

This is not true. Many felons who spend a lot of time locked up DO in fact lose their parental rights based on the fact that they have excessively broken the laws and were never there for their kids.

OP why are you posting this AGAIN???

Total loser. Red flags everywhere. And parental rights don't get terminated for "excessive jail time." Run fast.

He must be quite the lover for you to overlook all that!

Is this some kind of joke? Do you expect some kind of validation here? Run as fast as you can...both from this forum and from this loser.

Realize that no one will until your relationship has proven itself. And don't go to others seeking advice or their opinions. Just have a successful relationship. From your list you have a tough but not impossible road ahead. Just do you if that's what you want.

This is a repost. I don't think you are going to hear the answer you want if you didn't get it the first time.

I am madly in love with my BF. He treats me well, just like a woman should be treated. Yes guys, he even opens up doors for me and all that. He is a great listener and very supportive of my needs, etc.

The problem is that EVERYONE I know thinks he is a loser and that I am setting myself up for heartbreak one day. The reason(s):

A. He doesn't have an established residency at this time. He stays at his friend's houses three to four days at a time and uses my address for his mailing needs.

B. He doesn't have a car so every time we see each other, I have to do all of the driving. He also asks me for rides around town when he runs out of bus or train fare.

C. He is having a tough time getting a full-time job. He currently mows lawns for people and on occasion performs domestic duties to make money. He is on USDA Food Stamps to pay for his food and the cash he uses for his other needs. He really would like a full-time job, thus allowing him to get his own place & vehicle, but he has 2 felonies on his record plus his father has a restraining order on him which prevents him from being even considered for work.

D. He had his parental rights terminated a few yrs back due to his excessive jail time and can no longer see his three kids.

He has been out for about 2.5 yrs and is slowly getting his life back together.
He really wants to get a job so he can support himself and hopefully get his parental rights reinstated again.

I know he has a tough road ahead, but I really want to help him reclaim his life again.
He just turned 29 last week and is serious about getting his shit together.

However, my friends and family don't think I should waste my time on him.
Doesn't everyone deserve a second chance? If everyone loses faith in him, he may just fall down again.

What can I do so everyone respects our relationship more?