Anonymous wrote:I asked my mom how I slept as an infant and she said "oh you were great, you'd sleep all night zipped up in my coat while I walked outside" lady that's not good.....

ha ha

My mother definitely only likes kids when they are babies and toddlers. Not after when they have their own ideas. Definitely didn't make me feel loved.

Anonymous wrote:OP I feel your pain! I love that you told her you peaked at 1 year old! Having your parenting judged is just that much worse when it is our own parents. Why do they feel the need to compete with us and prove they did it better? They should support us and accept that we make mistakes, and also that kids are kids,

Can you buy her a book about parenting? It may help her to read about the typical parenting problems people encounter and that way she will see that you child is on par.

OP here. To my mother, asking her to read a book about parenting is akin to asking Einstein to read a board book about numbers. She's the ULTIMATE parent, why in the world would she read a book by some quack who probably screwed up her own kids? That is her viewpoint, anyway. That, and she's not a big reader. I try to keep a sense of humor about it. When I told her she must think I peaked at one, she laughed in a way like "haha, it's funny because it's sort of true!" She always did this, when I was a little kid, she complained about how I was so perfect when I was a baby, then when I was a teenager, she complained about how much better I was when I was a little kid. This mother's day I told her since she only had one child and I am pregnant with the second, I'm technically double the mother she is and maybe she should just defer to me from now on.

I asked my mom how I slept as an infant and she said "oh you were great, you'd sleep all night zipped up in my coat while I walked outside" lady that's not good.....

OP I feel your pain! I love that you told her you peaked at 1 year old! Having your parenting judged is just that much worse when it is our own parents. Why do they feel the need to compete with us and prove they did it better? They should support us and accept that we make mistakes, and also that kids are kids,

Can you buy her a book about parenting? It may help her to read about the typical parenting problems people encounter and that way she will see that you child is on par.

Anonymous wrote:So let her be with DD more often, while you go get a manicure and get some downtime

Ha. I'd say the opposite -- she zips it or no more you and certainly no more DD. You don't want your daughter to feel that pressure when she starts to understand. What a wench.

So let her be with DD more often, while you go get a manicure and get some downtime

According to my mother, by the time I was one, I could walk, speak fluently, and was potty-trained. I never screamed or had a temper tantrum or colored on the walls and I was always happy. On the other hand, if I ever was going to cry, she immediately jumped up and raced to meet my needs so that I didn't cry. So obviously, her takeaway here is that my mothering skills are sub-par because DD is not quite like this. I tried to explain to her that if all these things are true, that I either peaked at 1 year old and it's all been downhill since then, or I actually should be a famous physicist or astronaut or something and someone's made a huge mistake. She's not buying it. If only she were with dd at all times, dd would be advanced and perfect, just like I was as a baby.

This was just a vent. I'm done now.