Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 14:22     Subject: S/O fat bashing
Does it gross you out to see smaller people eating shitty food? I am probably smaller than most of the people who "hate" fat people and I eat like shit...I am 34 and my weight hasn't changed in years.

I love watching the yoga and raw food junkies give my food the side-eye. Suck it, and mind your own damn plate.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 14:22     Subject: S/O fat bashing
Anonymous wrote:PP 14:15 here. I have never said anything mean to someone on the forum, or anything mean to any overweight person. I keep my mean streak to myself.


Uhm You just did!!!!

I'm fat and I know it's horrible. But I also don't hate skinny people because I'm jealous that they can hack it and I can't. It is what it is. I don't live their life and they don't live mine.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 14:21     Subject: S/O fat bashing
14:15...are you jealous of how they eat? I'll be honest and say I've been jealous that a friend will eat a slice of cheesecake at a restaurant after eating what looked like a delicious creamy pasta dish. All i could think was how much i wanted to have what she had and not feel like I had to spend an extra hour at the gym the next day.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 14:19     Subject: S/O fat bashing
Anonymous wrote:I will say because I think all fat people I know are lazy and have all types of excuses for not working out. I don't understand how anyone wants to stay fat. I have a friend that has gain lots of weight over the last years and now can't bend down to tie his shoes (he pulls his leg up with the pants and has to tie shoe on the side), but is always talking about going to the gym and never does (no wife or kids, only himself). I have another friend who alsways talks about losing weight and then we go out to eat and she gets mounds of pancakes and asks for extra butter, etc. It's disgusting to watch them gorge themselves with food and I hate being at restaurants with them. Very few of the fat people I know have some sort of hormone or metabolic issue.


Ok. There are two things going on here. One is that you lack empathy. Fat people know they are fat and don't want to stay fat. If you haven't ever been overweight perhaps it seems ridiculous, but it isn't. It is incredibly hard to be fat and then lose weight. There are all sorts of factors at play besides effort. (Among them, psychology, nutrition, chemical changes, behavioral changes etc.)

The other is: So what? Why does their being fat piss you off? Lots of people do things differently from you and you let it slide. Why not weight?
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 14:17     Subject: S/O fat bashing
PP 14:15 here. I have never said anything mean to someone on the forum, or anything mean to any overweight person. I keep my mean streak to myself.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 14:15     Subject: S/O fat bashing
I will say because I think all fat people I know are lazy and have all types of excuses for not working out. I don't understand how anyone wants to stay fat. I have a friend that has gain lots of weight over the last years and now can't bend down to tie his shoes (he pulls his leg up with the pants and has to tie shoe on the side), but is always talking about going to the gym and never does (no wife or kids, only himself). I have another friend who alsways talks about losing weight and then we go out to eat and she gets mounds of pancakes and asks for extra butter, etc. It's disgusting to watch them gorge themselves with food and I hate being at restaurants with them. Very few of the fat people I know have some sort of hormone or metabolic issue.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 14:14     Subject: Re:S/O fat bashing
Anonymous wrote:Example?

Telling someone who is clearly overweight (or 'fat') that they are either isn't exactly fat bashing, even if they don't want to hear it. So I'm not sure there is any fat bashing going around. Calling oneself "chubby" when one is obese is disingenous, and I think some posters probably are calling them out. But calling fat people "disgusting" isn't nice either. (PP, looking at you.)


I think of the fat bashing on DCUM (and elsewhere) as:
1) Shaming overweight people and defending it (as if overweight women don't already know they are heavy and wish they were not.)
2) Assuming weight is the only relevant factor in a situation (health or otherwise)
3) Calling people "fat" as an insult. (i.e. you must be fat to have said that...)
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 14:10     Subject: S/O fat bashing
Anonymous wrote:Fat is disgusting. Why is that so hard to understand?


Huh? Do you mean like lumps of fat? Everyone has some fat on them.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 14:05     Subject: Re:S/O fat bashing
There are a lot of mean girls on this forum.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 13:58     Subject: S/O fat bashing
Eating well takes a lot of willpower. For many people it is easier to maintain that level of willpower when you have a clear, hated enemy: in this case, fat. So detesting fat people helps you turn down the desert etc.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 13:56     Subject: S/O fat bashing
Anonymous wrote:Can someone please explain to me why people are so nasty to/about overweight women on this forum? Do you actually really detest fat people? I just don't get it.


Because not being overweight is seen as being superior and more intelligent to others.

I'm not overweight, but I find it extremely tiresome/annoying when someone is accused of being fat if she posts about living in the suburbs, or not finding soda "vile," or not being distressed to learn another mom gave her (non-allergic) kid a cupcake. I have attempted to refute these points but just get called an angry fat-ass. So if it means that much to these posters to be so rude, so be it.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 13:54     Subject: S/O fat bashing
I had two friends who were incredibly cruel to anyone overweight. One legitimately hated fat people,saw them as lazy,useless...etc. she had a long list of issues though,so I am sure there was more at play. The other friend, although thin,had awful self esteem,was in a miserable marriage and only ate 1000 calories a day of raw/unprocessed foods. I think she was jealous of the overweight (talking like 15 pounds overweight,not obese ) because she saw some with confidence and eating actual good stuff. They were both incredibly toxic and have lost most of their friends. I would rather gain 30 pounds than have their lives.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 13:52     Subject: Re:S/O fat bashing
Example?

Telling someone who is clearly overweight (or 'fat') that they are either isn't exactly fat bashing, even if they don't want to hear it. So I'm not sure there is any fat bashing going around. Calling oneself "chubby" when one is obese is disingenous, and I think some posters probably are calling them out. But calling fat people "disgusting" isn't nice either. (PP, looking at you.)
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 13:49     Subject: S/O fat bashing
Fat is disgusting. Why is that so hard to understand?
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2013 13:35     Subject: S/O fat bashing
Can someone please explain to me why people are so nasty to/about overweight women on this forum? Do you actually really detest fat people? I just don't get it.