I'm pregnant with #2 and would be happy with either for different reasons but will mourn whichever one I do not get, even if just a little. If I get another girl, my DD will have a sister, which I love the idea of, but I'll never know what raising a boy was like. And if I get the boy, my DD will never have a sister. Either way, I will be a little sad for the road we inevitably cannot take. It's okay.

I have 3 boys and love them to bits. It is a good thing I was always a bit of a tomboy, I have no issues rescuing worms, picking up frogs or catching bugs - my hubby on the other hand - not so much! LOL

I would still love a daughter, I am hoping there is one more baby in the cards for us, and maybe I will get a girl.

I was talking to a friend the other day that has a boy and a girl and is pregnant with #3, she found out it is a girl, and said something that really hurt.

she told me she didn't think she would get lucky enough to have another girl and how she didn't want to get her hopes up.

it is quite obvious (to me anyway) that girls are the preferred sex.

But boys are freaking awesome!

I always thought I wanted one of each, but I could not be more happy with my two little boys. They are 4 and 2, they love each other so much, and they have so much fun together. No way to know if a girl would have added so much to our family, but we're thrilled with our two boys.

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Anonymous wrote:The other part that I am glad about is that after one boy I feel we have the boy skills down pat. We know about baby boys and we have all the toys and the clothes. Frankly, I'm quite glad not to have to buy ridiculous dolls and pink tiaras or princess outfits. Sure there are some cute girl clothes but I'm glad to have avoided the pink stage.

I wish people could explain the joys of having one gender without feeling the need to put down the other. Not all girls go through a pink stage (and some boys do), or want ridiculous dolls, etc.

Boys are amazing, girls are fantastic, kids in general are pretty wonderful. Every family experience is different.

That's true but I'm still glad I avoided it. And for the record, I have 7 nieces and every single one of them has been obsessed with pink and princesses. I am happy that we have boys and don't need to deal with that. Sorry that makes you defensive!

I'm the mom of four boys, and my mom had four girls. She said she had hoped for a boy for my fathers sake (not her own).

OP here - I wonder if moms of only girls feel this way, or if it's something about wishing for a child of your same gender..

I was never a girly girl, so I was relieved when I had 2 boys. That said, I did mourn not having a daughter.

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Anonymous wrote:The other part that I am glad about is that after one boy I feel we have the boy skills down pat. We know about baby boys and we have all the toys and the clothes. Frankly, I'm quite glad not to have to buy ridiculous dolls and pink tiaras or princess outfits. Sure there are some cute girl clothes but I'm glad to have avoided the pink stage.

I wish people could explain the joys of having one gender without feeling the need to put down the other. Not all girls go through a pink stage (and some boys do), or want ridiculous dolls, etc.

Boys are amazing, girls are fantastic, kids in general are pretty wonderful. Every family experience is different.

+1

I also think it's fine to own your disappointment at not having a daughter. It's not about the stereotypes of what "having a girl" are like, it's about your specific experience of parenting this specific daughter, and knowing that you won't have that can be painful. It doesn't mean you love your sons any less.

All this crap about ridiculous dolls and the pink stage is sexist and doesn't belong on this thread (or anywhere, really).

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Anonymous wrote:The other part that I am glad about is that after one boy I feel we have the boy skills down pat. We know about baby boys and we have all the toys and the clothes. Frankly, I'm quite glad not to have to buy ridiculous dolls and pink tiaras or princess outfits. Sure there are some cute girl clothes but I'm glad to have avoided the pink stage.

I wish people could explain the joys of having one gender without feeling the need to put down the other. Not all girls go through a pink stage (and some boys do), or want ridiculous dolls, etc.

Boys are amazing, girls are fantastic, kids in general are pretty wonderful. Every family experience is different.

I totally agree. I have 2 boys and know friends with all girls who comment on how they could never handle boys and all their energy and so on. I could come back with not liking girly things, but I know that if things were reversed and I had 2 girls that I am sure I would be in love with all things girly and that they would love their high energy boys. You always think that what you have is best.

Anonymous wrote:The other part that I am glad about is that after one boy I feel we have the boy skills down pat. We know about baby boys and we have all the toys and the clothes. Frankly, I'm quite glad not to have to buy ridiculous dolls and pink tiaras or princess outfits. Sure there are some cute girl clothes but I'm glad to have avoided the pink stage.

I wish people could explain the joys of having one gender without feeling the need to put down the other. Not all girls go through a pink stage (and some boys do), or want ridiculous dolls, etc.

Boys are amazing, girls are fantastic, kids in general are pretty wonderful. Every family experience is different.

I do adore my two boys, aged almost 1 and almost 4. And they absolutely adore each other. They are always making each other laugh. My youngest adores his brother almost as much as he adores me and I love watching his face light up when his brother climbs into his crib or gives him a hug.

I was sad to not have a girl. But on the other hand, I couldn't wish to have better kids. They are both so sweet and considerate and affectionate as well as smart and well behaved. I think I hit the jackpot and who knows if I'd have such wonderful kids if one had been a girl.

The other part that I am glad about is that after one boy I feel we have the boy skills down pat. We know about baby boys and we have all the toys and the clothes. Frankly, I'm quite glad not to have to buy ridiculous dolls and pink tiaras or princess outfits. Sure there are some cute girl clothes but I'm glad to have avoided the pink stage.

I have four boys, and I adore them! But i miss not having a daughter. It's just something we have to accept.

I get sad that I will never have a daughter and have mourned that a bit. I know that there is no guarantee that a daughter will have close relationships with their mothers, but I am very close with my mom.

At the same time I love having 2 boys and I love the relationship they have. Even now at 4 and 1 yr old. My youngest son is so in love with his older brother. While siblings who aren't the same sex can have close relationships, for the most part I have found that same sex siblings tend to be closer and that makes me happy for my boys. I look forward to watching them grow up together and to them having each other.

It has also really saved in terms of clothing and toys.

Congrats OP, 2 boys it a lot of fun!

I completely know where you are. I also lost my mom and didn't have a close relationship with her. I was really hoping to have that mother-daughter relationship I didn't have. In my case, we may have a 3rd child so part of me is putting off dealing with what if I never have a girl. But honestly, at this point I am really ok with that. And if we have a 3rd, I am at a zen place about whether it's a girl or boy. In fact, I kind of expect to have boys since I have 2 brothers and 5 nephews. No girls in my family other than me.

I had some issues when I was pregnant with my 2nd son in terms of wondering if I'll always feel sad at not having a daughter. But once he was born, I literally haven't thought about it again. I know that sounds cliche but in my case it's true. I love both my boys and I am just going with the belief that I was meant to have 2 boys and not daughters. I sometimes wonder if I'd even be a good girl mom since I know boys so well.

Like many before me, I've just found out that #2 is a boy, as is #1. I'm thrilled he looks healthy, especially since I'm getting older, but am sad realizing I'm never going to have a daughter. I know all the party lines - boys love their mamas, a daughter is no guarantee of anything, etc. I lost my mom young and was really close to her, so maybe that's part of what's hitting me - would appreciate stories about how much you love having two little guys! Thanks