OP here: I really appreciate that current Bethune parents have shared their experiences on DCUM. I've only heard positive things on the boards.
My husband and I both visited MMBDA on separate occasions.
The comments below should not reflect on the academics of Bethune at all, but our own personal concerns.
Both of us had the same impressions: lovely, warm administrators and teachers, great facilities and classes, nice students, PS-2nd grade Spanish Immersion classes (dedicated, earnest teachers, students who comprehend Spanish well, but don't seem to speak to each other in Spanish much, although will answer adults in Spanish, upper grades- kids were polite, well behaved and curious, little to no ethnic diversity among the students.
We are a multi-racial, bilingual family, but are on the fence about sending our child to a school with such little ethnic diversity in the student body. Before people get up-in-arms, I am non-white and grew up as the only brown skinned child in many of my classes in a Northeastern public, majority white lower middle class public school system. My high school had 2000 students, but only 50 kids of color. I know what it is like to be different, stared at and to want to fit in. When you grow up in a monoculture like that, you learn how to assimilate pretty quickly and shape shift your demeanor as needed. My DD is cafe colored and dark-eyed, so it's difficult to tell what ethnicity she is for most people.
Back to Bethune- my husband and I both noticed that in the PS3 classes, there was 1 white child in each class and in the PK4 classes, 1 white child in 1 class, and 2 perhaps latino children in the other. The rest of the 10 or 11 children in the class were all African American. In each of the classes, the white children were sitting alone, at tables , playing by themselves and looked pretty glum. In the PK4 class, the latino-looking children (both boys) played together and the other little boys spoke to them a bit but they were still in their own playgroup.
The truth is that kids are not color blind, even if we want them to be. Maybe the sad-looking children were having off days, but it seemed to be too much of a coincidence that on two different visits, my husband and I separately had the same observations. I actually had not shared my observations with my husband before he visited because I thought that it might have been a bad day for those kids or my own projections. If it was the Fall, we probably would have written it off as adjustment-to-school sadness, but it was May when we toured.
Actually, when I toured the lauded Mundo Verde, I had the similar observations- there's little ethnic diversity here in these classes- almost all of the children were white. If given a slot there, I'm not sure that is where I want my child to be either. On the playground, my husband, who is white, gets asked often, "What IS she?" from white parents.
We are looking for is a pre-school environment where my child can make friends, laugh, play and be in a safe environment where curiosity is valued and nurtured so that she will love learning. Making friends is an important part of the PS/PK experience so I am concerned that if my DD is the only cafe color kid in her class, that might not happen.
I think that the school is really going places and will be highly sought after by families from other parts of the city in a short time. It was the only charter school that I visited that had a dedicated full time music teacher, art teacher and PE teacher. That is amazing. A lot of public schools don't have that anymore. We may still send our DD to MMBDA- just have to do our own soul searching and get some therapy for ourselves