Anonymous
04/25/2013 22:38
Subject: Hurt By a Coworker!
Anonymous wrote:OP here, I just wanted to add that I am making things happening for myself, I am currently studying for my CPA exam.
I would have prefered that she kept quiet about her plans rather than lie to me, that's all.
Keep up the good work. And don't tell her or another soul at work about your outside-of-work professional endeavors. Unless or until it can help you at work. She'll get hers someday.
Anonymous
04/25/2013 21:59
Subject: Hurt By a Coworker!
OP here, I just wanted to add that I am making things happening for myself, I am currently studying for my CPA exam.
I would have prefered that she kept quiet about her plans rather than lie to me, that's all.
I would have prefered that she kept quiet about her plans rather than lie to me, that's all.
Anonymous
04/25/2013 21:55
Subject: Re:Hurt By a Coworker!
OP here, I don't sit and braid hair. I was hurt becasue I have known this person for years and I thought we were close friends. Maybe I am the one who doesn't know how to be a friend!
Thank you for those who replied kindly.
Thank you for those who replied kindly.
Anonymous
04/25/2013 16:37
Subject: Hurt By a Coworker!
I'm confused - How exactly did she hurt you OP?
Anonymous
04/25/2013 16:37
Subject: Hurt By a Coworker!
Frenemy!
Anonymous
04/25/2013 16:31
Subject: Hurt By a Coworker!
Anonymous wrote:Why was she supposed to tell you about her personal business? I don't get this, this is work not a sorority where you are braiding hair and talking about boys.
Maybe she didn't want to disclose she was thinking of leaving for school because it might jeopardize her job until she made a final decision. It was and is non of your business,
This is why I hate working for women, they get all emotional and take things to personally. You work together, it is business, that's it.
+1
Anonymous
04/25/2013 16:22
Subject: Hurt By a Coworker!
"talking about going back to school and about things we could do to advance our careers for at least two years"
OP please look at it from another perspective. Make it happen for yourself, it doesn't matter what your coworker does. It's not your life kwim.
You said the two of you have been talking about going back to school for two years. OK great, well your coworker finally made it happen, why not be happy for her and not suspicious or envious or insulted.
It has nothing to do with you. I agree with the PP who said she maybe didn't want to tell people because she was afraid of failure.
And you said that when she shared her news with you, you responded suspiciously that it was impossible she got an answer so fast.
Maybe she is lying, who cares, make it happen for yourself. I don't think she owes you an explanation.
OP please look at it from another perspective. Make it happen for yourself, it doesn't matter what your coworker does. It's not your life kwim.
You said the two of you have been talking about going back to school for two years. OK great, well your coworker finally made it happen, why not be happy for her and not suspicious or envious or insulted.
It has nothing to do with you. I agree with the PP who said she maybe didn't want to tell people because she was afraid of failure.
And you said that when she shared her news with you, you responded suspiciously that it was impossible she got an answer so fast.
Maybe she is lying, who cares, make it happen for yourself. I don't think she owes you an explanation.
Anonymous
04/24/2013 23:50
Subject: Hurt By a Coworker!
Anonymous wrote:This coworker and I have been talking about going back to school and about things we could do to advance our careers for at least two years. The last time we talked about it was maybe 10 days ago. She was telling me that she would find out when universities will have their informational sessions and that she would let me know so that we could attend the meeting together....she said that she was thinking about applying at different universities and hasn't done anything yet. I asked her about how to apply for scholarships and said that she didn't know the procedure ...
I was surprised today when she announced that she got accepted to graduate school. I congratulated her, but all I could think about were those discussions we had and the lies she told me.
I feel hurt, because I helped this girl get a job at my company, I am constantly checking her work (she asks me to), she actually said that she considered me her mentor.
I told her how I felt, and she said that she applied the day after we spoke about it (9 days ago), so I told her that was impossible that she got an answer so fast, so she said that I always make things about myself and stormed out of my office. Oh, and she got a grant from a foreign govenment in 9 days!!!!
Sorry, I just needed to vent!
She's lying or a criminal. Cut the dead weight
Anonymous
04/24/2013 18:45
Subject: Re:Hurt By a Coworker!
Anonymous wrote:You need to look out for yourself. People do that kind of shit all the time. Now, stop feeling sad and hurry up and apply to those programs.
+2 million. Oh, and shop checking her work, unless it's part of your job description.
I'm just curious, is that woman a foreigner? I find it hard to believe that foreign governments give scholarships to US citizens to attend local grad programs.
Anonymous
04/24/2013 18:24
Subject: Hurt By a Coworker!
Why was she supposed to tell you about her personal business? I don't get this, this is work not a sorority where you are braiding hair and talking about boys.
Maybe she didn't want to disclose she was thinking of leaving for school because it might jeopardize her job until she made a final decision. It was and is non of your business,
This is why I hate working for women, they get all emotional and take things to personally. You work together, it is business, that's it.
Maybe she didn't want to disclose she was thinking of leaving for school because it might jeopardize her job until she made a final decision. It was and is non of your business,
This is why I hate working for women, they get all emotional and take things to personally. You work together, it is business, that's it.
Anonymous
04/24/2013 17:48
Subject: Re:Hurt By a Coworker!
Maybe she just didn't want to jinx herself and announce she was doing anything until she would get a positive response. Some people are superstitious or just shy and not comfortable admitting their efforts have failed. You are reading into this too much if you think it was because she intentionally wanted to hurt you. It doesn't seem to me that this is about you at all. You are co-workers, not best friends from childhood, so it's natural, you may have limited info, whatever she feels comfortable disclosing. Chances are she didn't want to say she was trying, because if she failed, it would have been known and she didn't want to appear in this light.
Anonymous
04/22/2013 20:48
Subject: Re:Hurt By a Coworker!
Anonymous wrote:You need to look out for yourself. People do that kind of shit all the time. Now, stop feeling sad and hurry up and apply to those programs.
+1 million. This happens to a lot of people OP (it's happened to me at least). You're open with someone about what you're doing and they're being secretive for no real reason... then all of a sudden they announce all this stuff they've done and it just leaves a bad taste in your mouth, because you thought this person was being as open as you were. They just take whatever information and resources you have and they don't reciprocate. She's not your friend, get yourself ahead.
Anonymous
04/22/2013 20:44
Subject: Re:Hurt By a Coworker!
You need to look out for yourself. People do that kind of shit all the time. Now, stop feeling sad and hurry up and apply to those programs.
Anonymous
04/22/2013 20:43
Subject: Re:Hurt By a Coworker!
Selfish, calculated bitch. She is not your friend.
Anonymous
04/22/2013 20:41
Subject: Hurt By a Coworker!
This coworker and I have been talking about going back to school and about things we could do to advance our careers for at least two years. The last time we talked about it was maybe 10 days ago. She was telling me that she would find out when universities will have their informational sessions and that she would let me know so that we could attend the meeting together....she said that she was thinking about applying at different universities and hasn't done anything yet. I asked her about how to apply for scholarships and said that she didn't know the procedure ...
I was surprised today when she announced that she got accepted to graduate school. I congratulated her, but all I could think about were those discussions we had and the lies she told me.
I feel hurt, because I helped this girl get a job at my company, I am constantly checking her work (she asks me to), she actually said that she considered me her mentor.
I told her how I felt, and she said that she applied the day after we spoke about it (9 days ago), so I told her that was impossible that she got an answer so fast, so she said that I always make things about myself and stormed out of my office. Oh, and she got a grant from a foreign govenment in 9 days!!!!
Sorry, I just needed to vent!
I was surprised today when she announced that she got accepted to graduate school. I congratulated her, but all I could think about were those discussions we had and the lies she told me.
I feel hurt, because I helped this girl get a job at my company, I am constantly checking her work (she asks me to), she actually said that she considered me her mentor.
I told her how I felt, and she said that she applied the day after we spoke about it (9 days ago), so I told her that was impossible that she got an answer so fast, so she said that I always make things about myself and stormed out of my office. Oh, and she got a grant from a foreign govenment in 9 days!!!!
Sorry, I just needed to vent!