I have found that the kids who are attention starved are the kids of parents who are attention starved and they all think what their kid is doing is cute and fun.

One girl at our school sent an email to kids dictatiing what they shodl wear based on the group they think they fit in. Sports kds, smart kids, pretty kids, geeky kids, etc.

Her parents thought it was cute, turned blind eye to it.

Anonymous wrote:And how would you do that PP?

Easily. If you CHOOSE to treat people poorly and a teacher or school
call with a resonable accusation of Bullying:


No TV
No Computer/electronics (except for HW)
No weekend activities other than cleaning out closets, mowing the lawn,
Washing and waxing our cars.

Your basic deprivation of privledges. It's not hard folks.

Apologies would be made verbally and with notes to the kids, too by my
Child and you better believe I would call the parents and speak to them,
Letting them know that WE don't tolerate bullying from our kid.

Further, instead of blowing it off, like most parents, we'd follow up
With the school (teachers/counselors,etc) AND ask the other parents to
Please let us know if an episode occurred again.

Once our Child has earned some trust, privileges will be slowly returned.
If another peep about our kid teasing or bullying happened, back to
The deprivation of privileges.

Anonymous wrote:Wait til middle school where if you haven't given a guy a BJ you are bullied... Off to private school we went.

Good lord what middle school are you talking about?!

Anonymous wrote:Wait til middle school where if you haven't given a guy a BJ you are bullied... Off to private school we went.

Literally, in middle school, all girls are bullied who haven't done this? 90%+ of middle-school girls are bullied, for this?

http://www.guttmacher.org/media/nr/2013/04/01/

And how would you do that PP?

It is insane how rotten some of these local
Bullies are! Not the general garden variety of
Pain in the rear rats.

Our 12 y/o daughter has a bully who spends
rumors about all the other girls. Disgusting, vile, sexual rumors. Did I mention these kids are twelve.

The brat's parents have heard multiple complaints from
Many parents but Nothing ever changes, ever.
The bully isn't sorry, doesn't accept responsibility
And could care less how often the school staff talks to her.

Seriously, if my kid was a bully, I would end it immediately.

Wait til middle school where if you haven't given a guy a BJ you are bullied... Off to private school we went.

It is good for the school to have such a policy but there is a certain amount of kids behavioral issues that adults cannot get involved in. Yes it hurts but kids have to manage certain amounts of unpleasantness and cope.

Anonymous wrote:Our daughter is really suffering. Anyone else having similar experiences?

http://www.montgomeryschoolsmd.org/departments/forms/230-35.shtm

This is the bullying form. Hopefully this will force the school to do something.

Have you contacted the teacher and/ or principal about this? Our Bethesda elementary school has a zero tolerance policy towards bullying. The teacher or principal nips it in the bud if it's reported.

Are there certain elementary schools in Bethesda and Chevy Chase that are better or worse at handling this type of behavior. I'm curious as we are looking to move to he area in the next few years.

We have gotten our student council involved and asked them for ideas to reach their peers that are bullying. After doing lessons and talking with those involved did not stop it, we thought peer advocates would be beneficial. Early stages still, but those kids involved have been more vigilant about standing up to those who are making poor decisions. I feel for your daughter. It is very tough when school should be a safe place.

Bullying is out of control b/c the adults do not take control. No child should be allowed to bully (cyber or otherwise) any child. Usually, the adults (teachers, principal, other parents) know who the bullies are. Yet, no one wants to get involved. It reminds me of people standing by back in the day and allowing others to drive drunk. It had been socially acceptable to drink and drive b/c others didn't step in and shut it down. Now, it is not acceptable b/c other people step in and don't allow it. This social unacceptability along with REAL penalties (suspension, expulsion, note in the college application file (!)) would go a long way to shutting this stuff down.

Anonymous wrote:Our daughter is really suffering. Anyone else having similar experiences?

We had an experience last year with my DSD. It was pretty bad. That was her 7th grade year. Luckily, all the "mean girls" were in 8th grade and have now moved on. Shes having a better year. it got so bad that she needed xanax and to talk to a therapist. I truly think it was just jealousy. I mean the girl looks like a super model. Have you tried to talk with the teachers, counselors and principals? They can be of great help.

Our daughter is really suffering. Anyone else having similar experiences?