You are me as well. After my first son, I went to Alison Lukes (
www.alisonlukes.com) and she changed my life. She's lovely and really knows what she's doing--went through my closet, put together about 10 awesome outfits I didn't know I had (I can't put anything together ever), made me a list, and then we went shopping and she got me started on it--and gave me so much confidence in the process. Life changer.
I think there are a lot of SAHMs who think that liking to shop translates into being able to do it for others, so check anyone out diligently (she was one who had a legit resume, which is why I chose her).
Good luck!!!!