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Anonymous wrote:I don't need a man to be daddy tracked, I need a man to be money tracked. If not, my interest will fade along with respect. HTH

You are obviously not money-tracked yourself, from what I get. For those of us, who are, it's not as big of a deal.

It is not a big deal because your ego is greater than your intelligence.

Anonymous wrote:I don't need a man to be daddy tracked, I need a man to be money tracked. If not, my interest will fade along with respect. HTH

You are obviously not money-tracked yourself, from what I get. For those of us, who are, it's not as big of a deal.

Anonymous wrote:Not sure if that's what you would call it. But you often read about working moms who seem more focused on their family life than working. And that's okay. But other workers resent it because they feel like they have to pick up the slack while those workers leave early and never seem to work overtime. Just curious if anyone has dealt with this with a dad coworker?

You don't have to work overtime, if you do, please understand, you are getting exploited, and you are getting paid less per hour than you negotiated. I would never work overtime in salaried position regardless of my family status. And if I occasionally have to stay late, I will compensate for this by showing up later or leaving earlier some other days, when the workload is lighter. If I have to work the weekend, I will at least squeeze a day off out of this, as should you. Why people think constant OT is a norm and expect everyone to do this? It beats me. It's your poor decision, or the fact that you don't speak up when people dump stuff on you, or you are just simply being unproductive and not good at what you are doing.

I am a dad and a boss and i encourage both themoms and dads to make sure they tend to the family needs. Basic rule, get your work done on time and done right, do what you need to do. Manange your time. The ones who are having a hard time withthe work/life balance are not good at managing their time.

Anonymous wrote:I don't need a man to be daddy tracked, I need a man to be money tracked. If not, my interest will fade along with respect. HTH

is your job prostitute?

I don't need a man to be daddy tracked, I need a man to be money tracked. If not, my interest will fade along with respect. HTH

OP here. Thanks for the replies. Are the involved dads ever the boss where you work? How does that work if the boss is never around to be, well, the boss and provide guidance?

In my last job (law firm) I felt like the dads were applauded when they left at 6:00 to have dinner with their families -- as if fathers making time to see their kids was this rare virtue and they should get an award for it, while the women were mommy-tracked for the same behavior. As a childless woman who had to pick up the slack for both ("I have to leave to see my kids for dinner: can you finish this up?") I resented the men more than the women. But I think overall, the men's careers did not suffer for their family obligations.

In my current job where it's normal to go home at 5:00 unless there's some emergency going on, the people I see getting mommy-tracked are all women who either can't stop talking about their kids while at work, or else let their focus on family blur the line between legitimate flexibility (leaving early to pick up a sick kid) and unprofessional behavior (regularly leaving early to drive a kid to after-school activities). Both men and women who keep it professional do just fine.

Working mom here, and we have a few at my office. They don't get dinged for it that I are (but neither did the women that I could tell so far).

Not sure if that's what you would call it. But you often read about working moms who seem more focused on their family life than working. And that's okay. But other workers resent it because they feel like they have to pick up the slack while those workers leave early and never seem to work overtime. Just curious if anyone has dealt with this with a dad coworker?