Original poster here-
Yes, we should press harder with HU, but the realism of it is that there are 18 infant slots for the entire hospital and university, total. They give strong preference to single mothers and really, I am two seconds and a waitlist away from picking a fight and getting a divorce just to get him in, lol. Seriously though, I will go up there again and explain the situation, hoping to get an understanding ear.
Also, I am a gov't contractor, and my position has at least a year before it goes Fed, so I cannot use a government daycare

. I did look into it, however- that is a
very good suggestion for any federal workers out there. We visited one and LOVED it.
As for in-home daycares, I am not opposed at all. We actually went to interview with a lady named Marilyn (another DCUM actually recommended her). She is a $100 a day, though, which is out of our price range entirely, but if anyone reading can afford that and lives in the Columbia Heights area, she is so amazing. She is our dream sitter, really.
If anyone has the name of an affordable home daycare or any resources for finding one, please let me know. We are trying to find someone reputable through our church as well, so for the poster who is in the same boat, I will surely let you know what I find. It is very comforting to know that we are not alone in this predicament.