ThatSmileyFaceGuy wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

ThatSmileyFaceGuy wrote:I will admit to being attracted to some of my friends wives, I am human after all. Sometimes this even goes to mild flirting and making risque comments, but that is where it ends.

Do your spouses pick up on this, and how do they react or feel about it?

She knows who I'm going home with at the end of the night, and that is what matters.

What are you 23? Jesus.

I act like myself. My normal self. The way I act around EVERYONE, male, female, goat, chicken. If anyone interprets this as flirtatious, snobby, or whatever else, that is their issue.

ThatSmileyFaceGuy wrote:I will admit to being attracted to some of my friends wives, I am human after all. Sometimes this even goes to mild flirting and making risque comments, but that is where it ends.

honestly, that just makes it worse. OP, I see all the husbands of our couple-friends like they are my brothers. it's such a non-issue for all of us, the same as if we were siblings, so it would just seem so disgusting to me if one of them all of a sudden started flirting. But like I said, we all act like we're siblings.

Anonymous wrote:You interact with them like people, acquaintances, friends, whatever they are. It is flabbergasting to me that people can become adults and not figure out that people of the opposite sex (or the same sex if that's who they're attracted to) are HUMAN BEINGS rather than just potential sex partners.

Enough said!

Anonymous wrote:You interact with them like people, acquaintances, friends, whatever they are. It is flabbergasting to me that people can become adults and not figure out that people of the opposite sex (or the same sex if that's who they're attracted to) are HUMAN BEINGS rather than just potential sex partners.

why create a dichotomy between human beings and potential sex partners? that doesn't make any sense unless you're not having sex with humans... can't the OP and others see people as potential sex partners as well? It also comes down to a question of how a person defines what a potential sex partner is (a c*mbucket or dick vs an attractive, vibrant person with a great body)

Anonymous wrote:

ThatSmileyFaceGuy wrote:I will admit to being attracted to some of my friends wives, I am human after all. Sometimes this even goes to mild flirting and making risque comments, but that is where it ends.

Do your spouses pick up on this, and how do they react or feel about it?

She knows who I'm going home with at the end of the night, and that is what matters.

I just sleep with them. It cements the friendship and we all enjoy it.

ThatSmileyFaceGuy wrote:I will admit to being attracted to some of my friends wives, I am human after all. Sometimes this even goes to mild flirting and making risque comments, but that is where it ends.

Do your spouses pick up on this, and how do they react or feel about it?

I will admit to being attracted to some of my friends wives, I am human after all. Sometimes this even goes to mild flirting and making risque comments, but that is where it ends.

Agree, it is also about confidence in yourself and trust in your marriage/ partnership. Yes, men and women can and should be friends.

Op here. Chill out PP. I understand how to behave properly with the opposite sex. Just starting a conversation based on a previous thread. It seems like some people avoid having friendships with the opposite sex when married, and I think that's strange.

Seriously OP, just use common sense. Force yourself to interact with both the men and the women and obvioustly no touching or overt flirting and be aware of personal space.

You interact with them like people, acquaintances, friends, whatever they are. It is flabbergasting to me that people can become adults and not figure out that people of the opposite sex (or the same sex if that's who they're attracted to) are HUMAN BEINGS rather than just potential sex partners.

This is not a problem for me. I'm good friends with men and women alike, although I will say that all my male friends are dads of kids the same age as my kids. So we have that automatic connection. I've never been attracted to one of the dads in our group, and if any of them are attracted to me, they're keeping it to themselves. They're just people... friends.

Spin off from the post from the woman that avoids hanging out with opposite sex friends due to potential attraction.

So, what then, is normal behavior with the opposite sex when you're both married. I'm generally younger than my girlfriends, and keep myself pulled together, am very friendly and feminine yet have very masculine hobbies and interests. So, when I interact with my friend's husbands and couples friends, I tend to get along very well with the husband also. I just really like people and having friends, but should I not be as friendly with the male spouse? I wonder if there is some etiquette I'm not observing and I'm not aware of. My husband is awesome. He's totally mellow and doesn't care that I'm friendly, nor do I care if he is friendly with the female spouse. In fact, I like it when we all get along. There is no way I'd cheat or even want to.

I do feel like once my good friend didn't want her husband around me, who is also a dear friend. Really got that vibe. It's weird to me--- my husband and I just aren't like that.