Anonymous wrote:Why is your ex so angry with you? Does he want visitation or is he using your son as a pawn? I take it he has a drug addiction - where is he getting the money for the lawyers?

What makes you not want your son to have a relationship with him?

The drug addiction, maybe? Just a wild guess.

Probably the only way is if his parental rights are permanently terminated.

You could ask the judge in the next round to dismiss the case with prejudice, until certain conditions are met. In other words, ask the judge to say "you can't bring another action regarding custody or visitation unless you also file proof of clean drug tests, parenting class completion," etc. and then ask for attorney's fees to be included. That way, you won't have to keep coming back to answer. Get some solid advice from your lawyer but there are things you can do to stave this off. With custody, they don't want to keep someone from their kids, but they will put conditions on it and you can ask for proof of that before the court would even entertain the request.

Sorry about your situtation.

Ask your lawyer about this. Your lawyer should point out to the judge how frivilous your ex is being and ask the Court to punish him by saying that once there's a ruling of no custody or no reduction of child support, that issue can't be revisited until 6 months plus consecutive clean drug tests (for custody/visitation).

Oh OP, he sounds like such a mess! Poor you!

No advice, just sympathy. Wishing you strength.

Get a copy of the transcript, if there is one, where he said that he never wanted custody. It shows he was purposely misusing the system to your detriment. Maybe your lawyer can ask the judge about this harassment.

Can you afford to lose the support? He sounds like if you let him off the hook for that, he would be happy to have his parental rights terminated. He needs out of your son's life; he sounds like trouble now and forever. Be careful who you make babies with in the future.

Could you get it thrown out as a frivolous suit perhaps?

Why is your ex so angry with you? Does he want visitation or is he using your son as a pawn? I take it he has a drug addiction - where is he getting the money for the lawyers?

What makes you not want your son to have a relationship with him?

Oh man, sorry OP. That sounds dreadful. Your son sounds like he's being used as a pawn in this. I hope you get good advice.

Sorry OP - this sounds so so frustrating. Can you include a request for attorney fees in your response? Maybe your attorney can advise? It sounds like you are the stable parent in your son's life and he is lucky to have a tenacious, sane parent.

I would ask my lawyer if I were you. You are already paying him anyway.

He filed for visitation of our son it was denied. 3 months later...
He filed for a reduction of child support. It was reduced $20 dollars. 3 months later...
He filed for CUSTODY of our son. We were required to get a home study, and attend parenting classes. I paid the fees and did both, plus hired a lawyer. My son's father didn't do anything. When we appeared at court for the case he said he never wanted custody he thought by filing for custody he would automatically get visitation as a consultation. I said the only way I would agree to visitation is if he took a drug test. He said forget it. The judge awarded him 1 hour a week telephone visitation. 3 months later...
He filed again for visitation. This case is pending. Plus I just received another notice that he filed for a reduction of child support again.

I don't get paid for the days I miss work and I'm still paying the lawyer I hired for the custody case and he admited that he never wanted custody. This is harrassment. How can I make him stop?