Just wanted to wish you luck during your tww. I've been through three IVFs (all BFN) and know how overwhelming it can feel. It's ok to give yourself time and permission to feel lousy. I've had to apologize to my husband many times for snapping at him for silly things (and vice versa)! The feeling will pass (whatever the outcome). We're gearing up for our fourth cycle and feeling a little more upbeat again. What's helped us is keeping a sense of humor about all of it and knowing that whatever nastiness the other person is going through is just temporary because we're in this together.

I'm the OP. thanks for the good thoughts. I feel better just admitting I'm overwhelmed. I wish good things for all of you.

I am so sorry, OP. IF is a big, crappy, traumatizing, isolating deal. Experts say the stress compares to getting a cancer diagnosis. It's a legitimate, real crisis. They always say, "don't sweat the small stuff," but this isn't the small stuff. I hope that what I'm writing helps you to not feel sheepish (or whatever the right word is) about what you are going through. This may be the time to seek out counseling or a support group. You might be surprised how much it can help. The worst thing you can do is isolate yourself at this time. I know it was hard for me to tell people about this, because I felt so embarassed, although I know mentally that I shouldn't be.

i went through three cycles and then a FET before getting pregnant, and i was a complete wreck during my last 2ww, i kept thinking about how i have to stay positive but trust me, the only thing i was positive about was that i was going to have another BFN...well thankfully i was wrong. i know its so overwhelming, wish you the best of luck!

i went through three cycles and then a FET before getting pregnant, and i was a complete wreck during my last 2ww, i kept thinking about how i have to stay positive but trust me, the only thing i was positive about was that i was going to have another BFN...well thankfully i was wrong. i know its so overwhelming, wish you the best of luck!

If it's any comfort, you aren't alone (I know that's a comfort to me when I get all flustered).

Best of luck

I'm glad this forum exists. I'm in the 2ww after an FET. We've been TTC for more than two years. Today, I just woke up so tired and scared and sad. I started a fight with my husband over something that really doesn't need to be dealt with now.

I've been denying how much this effects me. With my hormones, the added estrogen/progesterone, fear that this wont work, pressure on myself to stay positive, worry that acupuncture, pineapple, and all those things wont help, uncertainty, and doubt, I feel crushed. I don't understand why I have to face such a long wait when I don't have control of my body. Every little twinge, I wonder if I'm ok. It's not like this every 2ww, but I guess after enough of them, it adds up.

Not sure what I'm looking for, but I wanted to get this off my chest.


Thanks