Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My spouse's school won't admit our kids because it would be too much of a financial sacrifice for the school to give us the *partial* tuition remission. They told us that straight up, basically, but only after spouse worked there for awhile and it came time for our kids to apply. So the perk may exist on paper, but not in reality. And this is at a financially secure, in-demand school: it's not that they don't have the money, it's that they'd rather give spaces to kids whose parents can pay full fare, for obvious reasons. Our kids now go to an equally respected private, on FA, which is fine - I'm not complaining about their situation, only about spouse's school's initial dishonesty.
My advice would be that anyone considering teaching at a school for the tuition break should negotiate their kids' tuition AND admission up front. At least it's clear to everyone, then, whether there is any available benefit or whether the "tuition remission" is a carrot that will forever dangle at the end of the stick. Get that carrot in writing if you expect to eat it!
That's terrible! Our school was also 100 a few years ago (maybe six) and now it's 50. Wish it was 100 again! I'll most likely have to apply for another teaching position at a 100 school sometime in the near future.
Who gives 100% these days? I don't know of any.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My spouse's school won't admit our kids because it would be too much of a financial sacrifice for the school to give us the *partial* tuition remission. They told us that straight up, basically, but only after spouse worked there for awhile and it came time for our kids to apply. So the perk may exist on paper, but not in reality. And this is at a financially secure, in-demand school: it's not that they don't have the money, it's that they'd rather give spaces to kids whose parents can pay full fare, for obvious reasons. Our kids now go to an equally respected private, on FA, which is fine - I'm not complaining about their situation, only about spouse's school's initial dishonesty.
My advice would be that anyone considering teaching at a school for the tuition break should negotiate their kids' tuition AND admission up front. At least it's clear to everyone, then, whether there is any available benefit or whether the "tuition remission" is a carrot that will forever dangle at the end of the stick. Get that carrot in writing if you expect to eat it!
That's terrible! Our school was also 100 a few years ago (maybe six) and now it's 50. Wish it was 100 again! I'll most likely have to apply for another teaching position at a 100 school sometime in the near future.
Anonymous wrote:My spouse's school won't admit our kids because it would be too much of a financial sacrifice for the school to give us the *partial* tuition remission. They told us that straight up, basically, but only after spouse worked there for awhile and it came time for our kids to apply. So the perk may exist on paper, but not in reality. And this is at a financially secure, in-demand school: it's not that they don't have the money, it's that they'd rather give spaces to kids whose parents can pay full fare, for obvious reasons. Our kids now go to an equally respected private, on FA, which is fine - I'm not complaining about their situation, only about spouse's school's initial dishonesty.
My advice would be that anyone considering teaching at a school for the tuition break should negotiate their kids' tuition AND admission up front. At least it's clear to everyone, then, whether there is any available benefit or whether the "tuition remission" is a carrot that will forever dangle at the end of the stick. Get that carrot in writing if you expect to eat it!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here, thank you - the term "tuition remission" is even new to me- so thanks for pointing me in that direction.
What I most appreciate from having read the threads is that it is a dicey relationship it puts your family in possibly: other people getting annoyed with you for getting a perk, either the other parents or other faculty. I hadn't considered that before. In the public setting it is a wonderful thing for moms/dad and their kids to go to the same school, and everyone gets treated better whereas it sounds like there is potential resentment about the issue in the private setting all the way around, no matter how it is handled from a policy perspective. Interesting for me to ponder.
17:45 - is the school you are referring to SSSAS? Just curious.
Like many things on DCUM, the supposed resentment over faculty kids is something largely limited to a few antisocial posters on this board; my kids go to the school where my spouse teaches, and we've never had even the slightest feeling of being different or resented by other families. Tuition remission is an employee benefit, just like health insurance and 401k contributions, designed to attract the best employees. Private schools are competing for the most talented teachers, and tuition benefits are a good way of doing that (and for most schools easier to manage than offering higher salaries) - a number of the teachers at our school (including my spouse) were highly sought after by several schools and chose our school in part because they liked the idea of having their kids at the school where they teach, so tuition remission made our school more attractive to them despite comparable (and sometimes lower) salaries. Being annoyed about these teachers "getting a perk" is nonsensical - and again, I've seen zero evidence that anyone thinks or acts like that in real life.
As an aside, I also think it's good for morale and sense of of community when the teachers and administrators are invested in and committed to the school not just as employees but also parents. When our kids previously went to a private school where my spouse didn't teach, I felt good about seeing faculty kids in their classes - it's a sign the teachers believe in their school and the quality of the education they're providing.
1) People who object to tuition remission are not resentful or “antisocial”.
2) Tuition remission is not the same as health insurance or 401K contributions because the benefit is only offered to a subset of employees.
3) If PP really views tuition remission as ‘”getting a perk”’ then clearly PP doesn’t understand the income loss to the school due to tuition remission. Using PP 23:07 as an example, even at a 50% Potomac discount why should one teacher receive $15,000, $30,000, $45,000 etc. (depending on the number of kids) per year for possibly 13 years? That’s not a perk; it’s an unequal distribution of benefits.
4) The proponents of tuition remission always say that it “attracts good teachers”. What they fail to acknowledge is that every employee (bookkeepers, secretaries, aftercare coordinators, camp directors, etc.) receives the benefit, which amounts to a huge amount of money. At a previous DC school a secretary received full tuition for four kids for 13 years at a rate of ~$30,000/kid. Why should a secretary, or any employee, receive a $120,000 per year benefit let alone for years? Is the school balancing that benefit by donating that amount to other employees 401K?
5) The teacher kids numbers are huge – sometimes my kids were in classes with half the class teacher kids (free tuition). That means half of the class was paying for the full class. Also, teachers are typically not big donors. Therefore, there’s a two-way income hit to the school.
6) The continuous whining about how little teachers make and how they take a pay cut at private schools gets old. No one made them be teachers. It’s a choice. Too, a lot of times the spouse makes a huge income, so why should a teacher with a spouse that makes a lot of money receive tuition remission?
7) Teacher kids are typically favored in the classroom. The misbehaved kids are never counseled out and any misbehavior is handled casually. Aftercare is especial bad. At my DCs school, the teacher/staff kids wander around and taunt the aftercare kids flaunting their freedom.
8) Providing tuition remission does not create a “sense of community”. So many of the teachers who are at a school due to tuition remission leave after their kids leave the school. Parents can tell who is passionate about teaching and who isn’t. Too, teachers tell the parents they are there only for tuition remission. Their leaving just advertises that they are only there only for tuition remission.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here, thank you - the term "tuition remission" is even new to me- so thanks for pointing me in that direction.
What I most appreciate from having read the threads is that it is a dicey relationship it puts your family in possibly: other people getting annoyed with you for getting a perk, either the other parents or other faculty. I hadn't considered that before. In the public setting it is a wonderful thing for moms/dad and their kids to go to the same school, and everyone gets treated better whereas it sounds like there is potential resentment about the issue in the private setting all the way around, no matter how it is handled from a policy perspective. Interesting for me to ponder.
17:45 - is the school you are referring to SSSAS? Just curious.
Like many things on DCUM, the supposed resentment over faculty kids is something largely limited to a few antisocial posters on this board; my kids go to the school where my spouse teaches, and we've never had even the slightest feeling of being different or resented by other families. Tuition remission is an employee benefit, just like health insurance and 401k contributions, designed to attract the best employees. Private schools are competing for the most talented teachers, and tuition benefits are a good way of doing that (and for most schools easier to manage than offering higher salaries) - a number of the teachers at our school (including my spouse) were highly sought after by several schools and chose our school in part because they liked the idea of having their kids at the school where they teach, so tuition remission made our school more attractive to them despite comparable (and sometimes lower) salaries. Being annoyed about these teachers "getting a perk" is nonsensical - and again, I've seen zero evidence that anyone thinks or acts like that in real life.
As an aside, I also think it's good for morale and sense of of community when the teachers and administrators are invested in and committed to the school not just as employees but also parents. When our kids previously went to a private school where my spouse didn't teach, I felt good about seeing faculty kids in their classes - it's a sign the teachers believe in their school and the quality of the education they're providing.
Anonymous wrote:OP here, thank you - the term "tuition remission" is even new to me- so thanks for pointing me in that direction.
What I most appreciate from having read the threads is that it is a dicey relationship it puts your family in possibly: other people getting annoyed with you for getting a perk, either the other parents or other faculty. I hadn't considered that before. In the public setting it is a wonderful thing for moms/dad and their kids to go to the same school, and everyone gets treated better whereas it sounds like there is potential resentment about the issue in the private setting all the way around, no matter how it is handled from a policy perspective. Interesting for me to ponder.
17:45 - is the school you are referring to SSSAS? Just curious.