I am super happy, I would say a 9-10. I would say my husband is less happy because of our sex life. I have lichen sclerosis and sex is painful/sometimes impossible. He understands, but understanding doesn't make up for the absence.

It sounds horrible, but I really wish i could outsource sex the way we outsource cleaning. It would make us so much happier (I wouldn't feel guilty and he would get some).

7-8, married for 13 years. The toddler years were probably the low point, down to a 4-5. At times, I felt like I was little more to her than a wallet and a contributor to her child care and home financing efforts. If I were replaced with a nanny and a trust fund, I'm not sure she would have been unhappy about it.

In recent years, we've been learning to appreciate each other directly again.

6. We have a little kid and no family in the area. I think it'll go back up again when DS gets older.

Anonymous wrote:8 sex life is pretty bad but everything else is pretty good

You must have a low sex drive. Our sex life sucks too and even if everything else were great, I couldn't rate a marriage with bad sex higher than a 5

8 sex life is pretty bad but everything else is pretty good

9

Married 5 years.

My issues are somewhat surface- he's cannot pick up after himself or the kids. But it kills me!!! Otherwise he's a peach.

9

Married 10, together for 13 and the kids (3 of them) are all grade school aged.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd say a 2. Been together 20 years, married 16.

I'm in perimenopause, and the things that have chronically bugged me about DH (lack of physical affection/sex; laziness; messiness) really bother me these day. We end up in a huge fight, not speaking to each other for days, about twice a month after i can't take it any more and blow up at him.

Interesting. Sounds like us. How old are you?

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Anonymous wrote:I'd say a 2. Been together 20 years, married 16.

I'm in perimenopause, and the things that have chronically bugged me about DH (lack of physical affection/sex; laziness; messiness) really bother me these day. We end up in a huge fight, not speaking to each other for days, about twice a month after i can't take it any more and blow up at him.

Interesting. Sounds like us. How old are you?

5. I'm constantly frustrated with the lack of him initiating sex,
lack of taking charge/having an opinion. Married 11 yrs. he knows I'm unhappy. He is happy. Probably a solid 9. He just has no drive for sex, affection, closeness, etc-- he "can't" turn it on.

I'd say 8. Been together 6 years, have 1 DD age 21 mo and another on the way. Ask me again this time next year, and hopefully it won't be a 2!

The main factor that makes me unhappy in our marriage is that DH is high anxiety (clinical diagnosis of generalized anxiety and OCD). He thinks catastrophically, as in, what is the WORST possible outcome to a situation. That alone would not make me unhappy-for better or for worse, after all-but it's more his reaction to it. After a pretty big fight, he was in CBT for about a year, and showed vast improvements, but lately he's fallen off the wagon, and really needs to get back to therapy. He is putting up a fight again, and flat-out refuses to consider any kind of meds (which I supported, UNTIL I went through post-partum anxiety myself, and found that meds helped solved the issue, along with therapy). So every time I have to reassure him yet again that he's not dying from some random cancer, or calm him down when DD wakes up coughing in the middle of the night, I feel resentful and annoyed that even after multiple talks about this, he's not only doing nothing to help himself, he is closing himself off to an avenue of help that might actually be worthwhile to him.

Maybe it's more like a 7, come to think of it...

Most days, maybe an 8-9, some days a 3 or 4. We have a toddler and it's just hard to be happy when everyone is tired and no one has enough "me time". Been together 10 years, married 8.

For me, it's about 7-8, and I think that's great. Not sure what my husband would rate it, probably higher, because I think marriage tends to be happier and easier for men in general.

We've been together 8 years. Marriage is hard, and a lot of work. The "less than 10" of my answer reflects how hard it can be at times, and I mean daily life. It's very much like running a marathon. Great rewards, but a hella lotta work and a little pain at times.

I'd say a 2. Been together 20 years, married 16.

I'm in perimenopause, and the things that have chronically bugged me about DH (lack of physical affection/sex; laziness; messiness) really bother me these day. We end up in a huge fight, not speaking to each other for days, about twice a month after i can't take it any more and blow up at him.

1 = Extremely Low to 10 = Extremely High.

I asked my DW (of 12 years) this question over the weekend. I was definitely not prepared for her answer [ 7 ]. She unpacked it a little, but I walked away in shock. I was thinking her answer would be around 9 - 10. I told her my answer to the question is [ 10 ].

[b]What is your happiness level? And, how long have you been with your SO? Can you guess what your SO might answer?[/b]