BPD - borderline personality disorder

Anonymous wrote:She's trying to emotionally manipulate your DH. Does she have BPD?

WTH is BPD?

Leave it to someone on DCUM to suggest that there is an illness, real or fabricated, behind simple bad behavior.

She's not efficient- she's hurting the efficiency of everyone around her by being a PITA and hurting the company's productivity in the process. People like this waste a lot of their coworkers' time.

What you describe is not something to fire a productive worker over. Sounds like a real go-getter.

Anonymous wrote:She's trying to emotionally manipulate your DH. Does she have BPD?

Oh for crying out loud! She said she was disappointed in him -- which is a DIRECT statement. What is manipulative? Manipulative would be refusing to speak to him.

Can she work from home? If so, that might be a good solution - she would wind up with more money being able to write off stuff she probably has anyway (phone, computer, etc.) and she could be her awesomesauce productive self without having all those lazy sloths your DH calls employees around to annoy her.

If she can't, then I think DH should look for someone else before firing her, and fire her because she's not fitting in well with the group, and although her work product is great, her attitude is not.

She's trying to emotionally manipulate your DH. Does she have BPD?

OP here. Actually, not situational. She has never held a position long term before..and she's not young. She readily admits she has a hard time getting along with others, at any job.

If she is a hard worker and good at her job, it is going to be hard to replace her. I say deal. It doesn't sound THAT bad, and sounds situational.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think saying "I'm disappointed in you" is a big deal. I would however let her know that she's a source of tension in the workplace and that she needs to concentrate on her work and not create problems.

Agree.

How tricky would it be to replace her? I'd let her go. She's unprofessional. (Though the expletive in the office, that is hardly uncommon, unless it was directed at someone!)

I don't think saying "I'm disappointed in you" is a big deal. I would however let her know that she's a source of tension in the workplace and that she needs to concentrate on her work and not create problems.

give her a warning. he needs to site her down and explain her attitude is destructive to the wrokplace. give her a very short time to shape up - 2 weeks?

FIRE

DH is self employed and has a problem employee. She is highly efficient and does great work. Makes mistakes but rarely. But she's a loaded gun. It irritates her to no end that the other staff members are not as productive and efficient as she is. She claims to have a stronger work ethic and lets them know it sometimes. She also misinterprets other staff's comments, as benign as they may be. She thinks everybody is out to offend or insult her. Most of the staff dislikes her for this. She is highly emotional, perhaps because of her belief that she is working hard and nobody else is at the job, or because she's going through her own personal issues. She is separated from her spouse and, in order to support herself and her two young children, she needs a salary increase. Keep in mind she just got a salary increase recently but she asks for another exorbitant increase. DH tells her 'no.'. In the past, she has yelled at another employee. She has used an expletive once at the office. And when DH rejected her request for a raise, she said, "I'm disappointed in you." She goes on to threaten that she won't be putting in so much effort anymore because she feels it hasn't gotten her anything. She threatens to find another job. DH said that she has to do what is best for her but a salary increase is out of the question. What do you make of an employee like this? Would you fire her for the "I'm disappointed in you" comment?