Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever feel like you're caught up in some kind of crazy video game where you're running and running towards your goal but some sadistic overseer keeps throwing obstacles in your path (hello insurance company denial, snotty nurse that doesn't return calls, stupid lab that ran the wrong test)? And just when you think you're at the end (surprise!) are another 3 levels to play.

Meanwhile the pregnant chick in the cube next door is bragging about how easy it was.

That is all.

She probably has no clue you're having a hard time. Not really her fault.

Actually, it shouldn't matter. It's like bragging about making a lot of money. Keep that shit to yourself.

TWW is over, but I'm scared to test.

I still think that pp, I cant believe its happening to me

The first time I was on Metro going to monitoring at 6:30 I kept thinking "I can't believe it's come to this" and "I'm such a cliche." I never thought I would be here.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever feel like you're caught up in some kind of crazy video game where you're running and running towards your goal but some sadistic overseer keeps throwing obstacles in your path (hello insurance company denial, snotty nurse that doesn't return calls, stupid lab that ran the wrong test)? And just when you think you're at the end (surprise!) are another 3 levels to play.

Meanwhile the pregnant chick in the cube next door is bragging about how easy it was.

That is all.

She probably has no clue you're having a hard time. Not really her fault.

Of course it isn't but that doesn't make it any less painful to hear.

Anonymous wrote:Yes to all of these things. I never in my wildest dreams thought I would have fertility issues. I thought I was healthy but apparently not since I now have two chronic conditions that were found as a result of this wonderful journey. I don't know if I will ever be the same after all of this but after over two years of trying I'm looking forward to getting off of this train with or without a baby (preferably with obviously). A person close to me is getting married this year and keeps talking about how she is going to have kids right away and I'm so jaded I just think (but don't say) oh really, good luck with that.

ITA. I suffer from RPL and I have the same reaction when someone announces that they are pregnant - esp. if it's still the 1st tri. Of course I never say anything, but I think it.

We've lost our innocence. There's no going back.

Yes to all of these things. I never in my wildest dreams thought I would have fertility issues. I thought I was healthy but apparently not since I now have two chronic conditions that were found as a result of this wonderful journey. I don't know if I will ever be the same after all of this but after over two years of trying I'm looking forward to getting off of this train with or without a baby (preferably with obviously). A person close to me is getting married this year and keeps talking about how she is going to have kids right away and I'm so jaded I just think (but don't say) oh really, good luck with that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ever want to smack the next person who says just relax??

YES! Just relax and it will happen! Or you should take a vacation...I ALWAYS got pregnant when I took a vacation. Listen lady...in the 8 years my husband and I have been together, we have LOTS of vacations. Unfortunately, if you have real issues, a vacation might not actually work! I know people mean well....but the comments are ridiculous. Sigh....

Meant to say *we have had lots of vacations*

Anonymous wrote:Ever want to smack the next person who says just relax??

YES! Just relax and it will happen! Or you should take a vacation...I ALWAYS got pregnant when I took a vacation. Listen lady...in the 8 years my husband and I have been together, we have LOTS of vacations. Unfortunately, if you have real issues, a vacation might not actually work! I know people mean well....but the comments are ridiculous. Sigh....

Anonymous wrote:Ever want to smack the next person who says just relax??

This, x 1 million.

And everyone else offering unsolicited advice or uninformed "diagnoses".

Hint, even if you had your own challenges TTC, you don't know exactly what I'm going through (esp. If your issues and treatments were different). And you, more than anyone, should know how unhelpful it is to tell me what will "help" or how things didn't work for you until you stopped listening to your doctor. Because I'm getting IVF since its so much more fun than the traditional way...not b/c my DH's sperm has like a 1% chance of ever fertilizing an egg on its own. And if I'm ever diagnosed with a life threatening illness, probably it would be better to go on a retreat than get treated by a physician.

Okay, rant over.

Totally. I still just will never understand why this has been such a hard proceess for us, and it is apparently so easy for so many other people. The only thing I can tell myself is that God must think I am so supremely totally awesome, since He supposedly never gives people more than they can handle; I must be able to handle a lot more than those other stupid fertile people.

Blush. Sorry, but those are the thoughts I get when I am very frustrated about this topic.

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever feel like you're caught up in some kind of crazy video game where you're running and running towards your goal but some sadistic overseer keeps throwing obstacles in your path (hello insurance company denial, snotty nurse that doesn't return calls, stupid lab that ran the wrong test)? And just when you think you're at the end (surprise!) are another 3 levels to play.

Meanwhile the pregnant chick in the cube next door is bragging about how easy it was.

That is all.

She probably has no clue you're having a hard time. Not really her fault.

Ever want to smack the next person who says just relax??

+1000!!!

Do you ever feel like you're caught up in some kind of crazy video game where you're running and running towards your goal but some sadistic overseer keeps throwing obstacles in your path (hello insurance company denial, snotty nurse that doesn't return calls, stupid lab that ran the wrong test)? And just when you think you're at the end (surprise!) are another 3 levels to play.

Meanwhile the pregnant chick in the cube next door is bragging about how easy it was.

That is all.