Anonymous
12/03/2012 21:37
Subject: Re:intimate wear for overweight women
Two ideas:
1. You are almost certainly wearing the wrong size bra (I have been your size, and bigger, and smaller, and I need different bras for different weights). Go get fitted for a bra, ideally at a lingerie store rather than a department store. Try on lots of stuff -- sometimes even the professional fitter is off a size, depending on brand -- but get something that fits really well. It makes a huge difference to your silhouette and posture. Don't be afraid of something full-coverage if it does good things for your shape: you can always find a style with lacy accents.
2. I am in favor of getting comfortable "everyday" underwear that you can wear under clothes *and* just walk around in without feeling self-conscious. Not that you can't also have that special occasion undies, but get in the mindset of "all my underwear looks good on me." I happen to be a big-hipped girl who likes full coverage panties -- not everybody's idea of sexy, I know, but it works for me and DH -- so I like hipster style panties because they don't emphasize my saddlebags like hi-cuts do. If you're interested, I recommend Hanes cotton hipsters (size up, they shrink) and also Bali slimming bands panties for light shaping without the indignities of Spanxx.
Good luck!
1. You are almost certainly wearing the wrong size bra (I have been your size, and bigger, and smaller, and I need different bras for different weights). Go get fitted for a bra, ideally at a lingerie store rather than a department store. Try on lots of stuff -- sometimes even the professional fitter is off a size, depending on brand -- but get something that fits really well. It makes a huge difference to your silhouette and posture. Don't be afraid of something full-coverage if it does good things for your shape: you can always find a style with lacy accents.
2. I am in favor of getting comfortable "everyday" underwear that you can wear under clothes *and* just walk around in without feeling self-conscious. Not that you can't also have that special occasion undies, but get in the mindset of "all my underwear looks good on me." I happen to be a big-hipped girl who likes full coverage panties -- not everybody's idea of sexy, I know, but it works for me and DH -- so I like hipster style panties because they don't emphasize my saddlebags like hi-cuts do. If you're interested, I recommend Hanes cotton hipsters (size up, they shrink) and also Bali slimming bands panties for light shaping without the indignities of Spanxx.
Good luck!
ThatSmileyFaceGuy
12/03/2012 10:42
Subject: intimate wear for overweight women
then go for the things that accentuate what you think of as your good parts. But the important part is yes you have to feel sexy (but that is more of a mind game than anything else) but also what your man thinks makes you look sexy.
Anonymous
12/03/2012 10:00
Subject: intimate wear for overweight women
Anonymous wrote:Girl please. I am 5 inches shorter than you and I dare anyone to tell me I don't look good. I do need to lose 20lbs to look my best, but I still look damn good. Get some confidence and whatever lingerie you think would fit and look flattering. Obviously we cover our problem areas up....
Thank you so much PP. That's the problem... I don't know WHAT will fit and look flattering on me. Everything I try on looks awful so I must be doing something wrong!
I have wide hips anyhow, and an average bust. The things that fit me look so frumpy.
Anonymous
12/03/2012 09:49
Subject: intimate wear for overweight women
Girl please. I am 5 inches shorter than you and I dare anyone to tell me I don't look good. I do need to lose 20lbs to look my best, but I still look damn good. Get some confidence and whatever lingerie you think would fit and look flattering. Obviously we cover our problem areas up....
ThatSmileyFaceGuy
12/03/2012 09:37
Subject: intimate wear for overweight women
Something for the bedroom??? Think teddy's babydolls and corsets or even a nice robe in silk.
There are several companies out there that design and make lingerie specifically for plus sized women.
Look at hipsandcurves.com
pamperedpassion.com
aboutcurves.com
There are several companies out there that design and make lingerie specifically for plus sized women.
Look at hipsandcurves.com
pamperedpassion.com
aboutcurves.com
Anonymous
12/03/2012 08:15
Subject: intimate wear for overweight women
Please help me without judgment.
I am 5'8" and most of my life have been slim.... about 140.
In in the past three years just keep gaining weight that I cannot seem to shed.
It is all in my tummy, rear and thighs. I now weigh 170 pounds.
I wear a size 12 mostly or large, but lately am finding size 14 more comfortable.
I *KNOW* I need to lose weight. But right now I need some clothes that make me feel good about myself.
I am looking to buy nice lingerie that doesn't make me hate myself. Nothing I buy looks right on me. The only thing I want to wear is something that totally covers me up, like flannel pjs, but they are NOT sexy!
Do you have any suggestions?
I am 5'8" and most of my life have been slim.... about 140.
In in the past three years just keep gaining weight that I cannot seem to shed.
It is all in my tummy, rear and thighs. I now weigh 170 pounds.
I wear a size 12 mostly or large, but lately am finding size 14 more comfortable.
I *KNOW* I need to lose weight. But right now I need some clothes that make me feel good about myself.
I am looking to buy nice lingerie that doesn't make me hate myself. Nothing I buy looks right on me. The only thing I want to wear is something that totally covers me up, like flannel pjs, but they are NOT sexy!
Do you have any suggestions?